When everybody tells you you should stay with him because he's such a great person, so kind, tolerant, rich, clever, handsome like from a movie etc.. etc.. He is indeed! I only don't love him! Can anybody understand me or does everybody think I have to stay with him? Tell me please!
Thanks a lot,
Maria
2007-05-30 11:56:45 · 13 answers · asked by Maria 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn’t matter what everyone else tells you about him, or if they think you should stay with him because they are not the ones that have to be with him you are, and your happiness is what counts. Sure he could be a nice guy but that may not necessarily mean that he is the man for you. Maybe you just don’t feel that connection with him, or feel that anything could come out of the relationship, whatever the reason you obviously don’t feel that strongly about him and even though he is a nice guy its okay not to love someone. Maybe you two are only destined to be friends; there a lot of nice people out there but that doesn’t mean you have to be in love with them just because they are nice. Love is something that includes all qualities about a person and maybe you just need more than he is offering you, or something different. Don’t blame yourself for not being in love with someone, you deserve to be with someone you can have a loving relationship with. Your friends and family should support whatever makes you happy and people that really care about you will not be satisfied if you are in a relationship that is not exactly what you want. If you care about him and still want to be with him that’s fine but don’t feel like you have to rush into love. Sometimes falling in love with someone takes time and if it is meant to be then eventually you will.
Good luck
2007-05-30 12:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 28 and was dating a cute girl who was nice, respectable, and good to me. It lasted for about a month. At 1 month, it occurred that I didn't love her; I just didn't. Though, there wasn't anything in particular that I didn't like. Let me tell you, because I don't like being alone, I tried to fool myself into loving her. I'm somebody who really digs into what put my mind towards... to the point that I started reading Eastern Religious texts in hopes of training my perspective to accept certain things (e.g. force myself to love her). Good lord it was a horrible, horrible idea. The result was some serious emotional trauma on myself and possibly onto her (I jerked her around a bit by changing my mind and changing it back). I had a full blown anxiety attack one day and had to call it off over Myspace of all things because I couldn't even put words together (had to call off work ). Lesson learned is: If it's not there, IT'S NOT THERE! Trust your instinct. I understand that I'm an extreme case, but, at least you have an example of someone who REALLY tried to make it work, and failed miserably. Bottom line: you either love someone or you don't. The only stuff that's worth "working on" are logistics like who takes out the trash or who's lame in the sack/etc.. :)
2007-05-30 12:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by Frazzled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what your heart tells you. If you stay with him, how do you know that you are not missing out on the "right" guy? Don't listen to your friends, they are great for tell you which guy to not be with, but horrible at telling you which one to be with.
That being said, why would you want a boyfriend that "does everything for you". No challenge, no passion...might as well get a dog instead.
2007-05-30 12:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your heart isn't placed where your physical self is, then get out of the situation before misery appears.
No point in staying in a relationship if there's no love to share amongst the two people.
2007-05-30 12:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by sum1_keeps_taking_my_name 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, dude. that sux.
well anyways, i think it is having a perfect guy is a total turn-off to some people, and other people will realize that too. no, and dont stay with him. if u dont love him, and he's not for you, then you should ahve no rite to be with him. and plus, maybe ur friends don't realize that you want someone to not do EVERYTHING for you, btu just be a real person, and actually just care, instead of wanting to impress you, or caring too much :]
2007-05-30 12:01:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. I finally just broke up with him I broke his heart and felt horrable but it helped me alot! I was startin to be mean to him just cause I didnt really want to be with him. Break up with him it will help in the long run. Tell him he is a great guy but you dont want to lead him on you just dont feel the same. Good Luck :~)
2007-05-30 12:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by magics_gurl93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he is all those things you've described, doesn't mean you have to love him. material things mean nothing if you don't have that feeling inside that you have tramendous feelings for him. it seems to me that you may be better off as friends. if you stay with him, he's going to think you love him. if you feel you need to break up with him, i'd tell him that you love all the things you do for him, but that passion isn't there anymore. don't listen to what all your friends are saying, listen to your heart and what it's telling you what it needs. this man is obviously loving and caring, but it's not exactly what you need. dont feel like you have to stay with him because he's nice to you. only be with him if you feel like you need him.
2007-05-30 12:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by smilez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean if your God believer, leave it as much as him. She say she has emotions for her ex, yet do she? How previous are you adult men besides? i understand you're saying you adore her, yet while y'all at the instant are not meant to be, it is existence. Of you recognize you adore her better than The Ex, tell her and in basic terms enable God shield the placement.
2016-12-30 07:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by sopata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because hes acting like a dormat.. u sound like u need some1 more dominant u need balance a dominant confident guy can stil be a sweetheart.. i wudnt bother telling him to man up because its probably who he is.. if he was more dominant he wud do it automaticly - love u cater to u and still maintain his respect and manhood... Good Luck :)
2007-05-30 12:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by *PYT* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to stay with him if you do not want to. Others may think you should stay with him, but others dont have your personality or thoughts.
2007-05-30 12:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋