what could it be ?
2007-05-30 11:54:34 · 26 answers · asked by dersexy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he doesnt care about you, just in it for himself
2007-05-30 11:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by kc 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hello! Love doesn't depend on when he finishes... They even say that if he does this quickly then he's to excited about you! And for men it's normal to come to the end more quickly then for women... But what he would really want to do if he loves you is to give you a real pleasure and make you feel loved and desired! :) This is up to you to see if he wants this for you or if he doesn't! But remember that your own selfesteem can effect alot! For ex, if you don't love and appreciate yourself enough you may think he also doesn't while he really does and that's only your thoughts that make you thnk he's not! :) But really sweetie real love is that you're not affraid of being open! Try to be open! I know it's hard! I'm myself trying to be open with myself now... So show him in some way that you want it to be longer... You can give him some magazine to read where is written this (by give him to read I mean to read it yourself while he'll be somewhere around and maybe show him so that he could see) or a book, where is written how to make love to bring more satisfaction to woman... You shouldn't buy the book yourself if you don't want... We have just bought the book as a funny present (this was like a joke) to our common friend and I've read it myself first and then told him:"Wow! I've read such things! It's better to do so and so and so!!!" And he got excited and we tried that... Hm... and by the way you become less shy to tell what you want when you read such books...
Good luck to you! So I advice you to show in any sence to your boy what you really want! Try to find how you can bring yourself to this satisfaction and maybe do this with his hand... He'll understand this! :)
Have a great day,
Maria :)
2007-05-30 12:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by Maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men finish before their ladies.
It may not be a "love" issue but it sure sounds like a respect issue!
Go to your local library and check out some books on sex. Almost all of them have chapters that deal with the man climaxing before his lady and give techniques on how to delay that event. Often times it's simply a matter of getting you more "worked up" before the actual intercourse begins.
If he's not willing to work on the problem...well, then it may be an issue of love.
2007-05-30 11:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It takes women longer to "finish." That is just a fact, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. The most erogenous part of a woman's body is her brain (hint: most guys don't know this) - the least bit of distraction and there's no WAY it's going to happen for you. My guess is that every time you have sex, you probably start worrying about this...and guess what? Distraction! Maybe you should try talking to him about it.... Hard (pun intended), but necessary. It may simply be that he has no clue what is happening, especially if you fake it.
2007-05-30 12:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmy :o) 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Inexperience. Insensitivity. Lack of communication. You're having sex with another teenager?
Honey, baby, love is passion, intimacy and commitment. You have to have all three. What you have is an experiment that is going wrong. If you want to teach him how to give you pleasure with his mouth, then you will do both of you some good. And he will be that much better for the rest of the women that he screws.
And Please, please, please, reassure us that you are using birth control. It doesn't matter to me if you get as STD, but the idea that you would produce a baby at this stage of your life is too frightening to think about.
But don't call this activity love.
2007-05-30 12:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by Daniel H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he gets off before you does not mean he does not love you. Let him know that you are not finished and he needs to continue until you are satisfied.
2007-05-30 12:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by cordova95968 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is what is called a "selfish lover". Selfish lovers are interested in their own sexual pleasure and release rather than the mutal pleasure and release of both partners involved. Such people don't always realize that their behavior is hurtful, so talk to him about it before you do anything rash. If he continues to not take your feelings into account after he knows about them, dump him and move on to someone who will look out for BOTH of you, and not just himself.
2007-05-30 11:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by Straight Shooter 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've not known any women who finishes first unless its planned that way...most guys go quicker... if this is the pattern you experience...talk to him and let him please you with foreplay...even to the point of climax ...eventually he should join in about the time you both could finish together...nothing better than that.
2007-05-30 12:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love has nothing to do with who finishes first in sex. It takes some talent for a guy to be able to time his orgasm.
2007-05-30 11:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He finish b4 you, wow, he need to practice a lot a lot lot but dont worry ders nothing wrong about you he jst need, again, practice a lot lot so he can please you. about the question if he love you, its very hard to say cuz you only mention about your sex experience. You cant tell love jst by sex.
2007-05-30 12:15:02 · answer #10 · answered by DarkSinX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men always finish before the woman. At least in my experience. If he care's he'll keep going.
2007-05-30 11:57:51 · answer #11 · answered by nerdys_cool 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋