my boyfriend keeps wantin to do me up the bum but im scared should i be? will it hurt?

Answer 1

you gotta only do what ur comfortable with. the main secret is to be really relaxed and you should be ok.

Answer 2

Wow, look at all your answers lol

By asking the question on here you are thinking about it which is good, especially for your boyfriend lol. If you are going to try this then you need to be relaxed and you don't need plenty of lube, just a little bit. Start with a finger first and work your way up. I had a girlfriend who would come just by me fingering her bum. She wasn't keen on me following that with anything else as she was very very tight in there. We did do it once and the feeling for me was incredible. Bum sex has become very popular these days and if you watch any porn movies most of the girls are into it.

If you want to do this for your boyfriend then practice on your own first with a dildo or something. If your ok with that get him to use the dildo on you and see were you go from there.

Ignore all the answers saying it hurts. It depends on how big your boyfriend is and you as well.

One thing I will say is that to have options in sex is great and if you re willing to try this then you get 10 out of 10 in my book, and if you don't like it you don't try it again.

Answer 3

1. LUBE! lots of. Though get water-based because oil damages condoms
2. Slowly. Fingers first
3. Anything that has been up there should be thoroughly scrubbed before going anywhere near the other hole. That includes the mouth (Listerine antibacterial mouthwash is good). Always change the condom.
4. Be prepared if it goes wrong. I'm sure you've heard the messy horror stories.
It will probably hurt, as in the end we're really not designed for anal sex. There's no reason why you shouldn't, but don't let your bf pressure you into it unless you want it. Take care and good luck!

Answer 4

It will most definitely hurt unless the proper technique is used.
The average guy has no idea how to have anal sex...he thinks he just sticks it in there and goes to town...wrong!
First off, be clean..take a bath or a shower.
Second, use good lube...not that crazy old fashioned vaseline. Get some professional quality modern lube, you know, water based and sweet tasting...you can buy it at a porno shop or adult toy shop....
Most important is the technique of insertion: insert three or four times, in quick succession, briefly each time and partially the way in, to make the sphincter muscle relax. Then, on the fifth insertion, you can start the old in and out. It will not hurt if you follow these instructions.

Answer 5

It doesn't hurt if you do it properly.

You would need to relax those muscles, to use plenty of lube, and gradually stretch that area (fingers before penis etc)

If you're not comfortable with the idea just say no and don't do it, giving in to it when you're not 100% sure will only cause you to tense yourself, anticipate more pain than would naturally occur, and make you feel bad for doing it.

Use extra strong condoms for this, as the thinner ones for normal vaginal sex may not be up to scratch.

Maybe try using toys before actual bodily penetration, so you can get used to the feeling of having something up there, as it were. But be very careful, use adult toys specifically designed for anal play, as they're flared enough so they don't get 'suck up' and lost inside you as it were.

Good luck either way.

Answer 6

You have to be very relaxed for this, and if not, it will hurt.
It helps to be prepared: do an enema first, so that your rectum is clean. S*it is not sexy. Also make sure that you have plenty of lube available, as the rectum is fairly dry. It helps to practice first with fingers or a dildo.
The secret to women's pleasure with this is that the flesh separating the vagina from the rectum is quite thin. If you finger yourself at the same time, the sensation can be exquisite. It's all a matter of personal taste.
In the interests of hygiene, don't let your BF go from anal sex to vaginal sex without washing first, and always wash afterwards. He should still use a condom, to protect himself from urinary tract infections.

Answer 7

Some girls do enjoy it, others really hate it, but it's very delicate in there and it risks a rupture or an9l prolapse. The outside is a very sensitive area and it can feel great to be touched or licked. Maybe you could try experimenting with yourself? Make sure you're lubricated though.

Don't let him pressure you into it though, and if you do do it you need to be relaxed.

Maybe you could suggest that if he is happy for you to put a dildo in his bum you would consider letting him up his in yours!

Answer 8

Threaten him with a cucumber!! You have every right to be scared-it sounds like you have never done this before. Yes , it can hurt, especially if it is rushed,or you are tense. If you have to try it, make sure that you are clean, there are condoms for him, plenty of lube and to take your time- your bum isn't meant for this kind of treatment!!!. Or you can always tell him to find a gay lover!!!

Answer 9

DO IT!! Nothing like a good **** up the ****. You will eventually have amazing anal orgasms and squirt love juice all over the place. Most normal men have a real passion for doing a girl up the ****. It is so intimate. When you are doing it don't forget to talk really dirty to him and he'll shoot his load up that sweet hole in no time.

Answer 10

oh yeah it hurts big time if you really want to do it then make sure you use lots of a**l lube and be very relaxed be it your tense it will hurt it still did for me after a few times, if it something you want to try you might want to start with a plug and work you way up

Answer 11

tell him to go do his mate up the bum, seems hes a pro at it, he might be saying this because your puss is to much like a kfc bucket so its not enjoyable for him when having sex so he needs something alot lot more tighter to get off on . lol u have a kfc bucket you tart/****.