My boyfriend touches me somewhere and i dont like it?

Question

my boyfriend is very loving but he tries to put his hands down my pants. im only 14 and im not comfortable with it. if i tell him to stop he doesnt and he asks me why all the time. ive told him to stop plenty of times. he just doesnt and it really bothers me. i cried once because it bothered me so much. my friends told me that its sexual assault but i know he would NOT rape me or anything so i dont see it as that bad but he just touches me in the worng places!! :'( what do i do?

Answer 1

You need to learn to only stay with guys who respect you. He is not, let him go.

Answer 2

Ok read the part "I'm only 14" just because you go out with the guy doesn't mean he won't rape you, or you knowing him enough he won't do it. Every guy is capable of raping a girl. But here are some reasons this is the age where boys hormones start developing and this is when they figured out that having sex is great. You seen movies where a High School boy is trying to have sex with his High School girlfriend, right? Well this is exactly it, yes I know not expecting something like this to happen until High School, but I'm sorry to say that the next generation is here, kids having sex right in the middle of class (Saw this info on CNN). Now he is sexually assaulting you because you made it clear you don't want to be touched there. Here is what I suggest you should do, kick him in the nuts and get in his face and yell at him saying "No means No!!!" Because either way he is goin to leave you because you don't give him sex. I'm also saying not to have sex with him just so he will stay with you, that isn't a relationship, if he is just with you for sex than break it with him and tell everyone that he is a pervert, cause it's true. Second thought you better tell your parents about this kid.
BD

Answer 3

It IS sexual assault if he keeps doing it and your not comfortable with it and you tell him no, there is nothing else you can do if you don't want it and he doesn't stop you have to tell someone older about it or the police. He can get in a lot of trouble, sounds to me like he doesn't really love you, if he did he would stop when you ask him to and respect that and drop the subject, but it sounds like he just wants in your pants and to take your virginity.

Answer 4

Well, that is a form of sexual assault even though you believe he wouldnt rape you. (You really DONT know what may happen.) If he really cared about you, he would respect your wishes and not continue to try to get down your pants. I think that you should put space between yourselves and let him know you dont want to be alone with him until he can respect you and your body.

Answer 5

Well sorry to say, but your friends are right. That is sexual harassment. That's not allowed @ my place of work & we'd get in to trouble for something like that so why should it be any diff't for a couple of kids ? Report him to the principal if this continues, or @ least threaten to... No one should make you feel this low.... or this bad. Imagine what he could do to you if were ALONE... if you're not 100% alone already. Talk to a trusted adult. Break up w/ him. This could really scar you ! GOOD LUCK !

EDIT: Someone else just asked a similar Q so check out the Q in my A's for the SEXUAL HARASSMENT Q someone else asked. The person is being CHARGED !!! Read it.

Answer 6

he should have stopped the first time you said no it only takes one time 4 u to say no and he should stop break up with him he obviously dose not respect u and how do u know he would not rape u maybe he would just ignore those no too. the guy your going out with is bad news if you have to tell him no one more time report him for sexual assault if he even loved/liked u he would not want to see you cry coz of something he did! he doesn't care about you he cares about the rush he gets out of it!!!!

Answer 7

Well, your friends are right, it is sexual harassment if he does it and you ask him not to. I know you say that he wouldn't violate you, but if hes already doing this, who's to say that he wont do more? My first instinct says that you should slap him if you already asked him nicely, but i don't think that would go over very well. So, i suggest that you try to tell someone who could help you,(parent, teacher,etc). But if your uncomfortable doing that, when he asks why, tell him that it is your body, and if he doesn't respect it, and your wishes, you'll leave him. i know its drastic, but he needs to understand that no means no. If he truly cares for you he'll stop. If not id break up with him.

Hope Things Work Out Okay
~me

Answer 8

Sexual assault is different from rape. He touched you in a place that was uncomfortable for you . you can keep it to yourself, Dump him, work out the problem or tell someone. I'll go with choose 2 & 3.

Answer 9

Girl, it is worse than bad if he does it after you tell him straight out NO, it's terrible. It can and probably will lead to other stuff if you do not drop him right NOW! Please girl, be smart, have some pride, cuz worse things will start, and you can't hide. By the way, if you can listen to us people you don't even know and who don't thoroughly know you sitch, you should definitely listen to you friends. And tell you parents, or someone very close to you in case he doesn't lay off after you break up.

Answer 10

It might not seem bad because he is nice in other ways but the reality is he does not respect you. If you have told him many times to stop and he won't then you should drop him. He obviously isn't listening to something that is important to you. Only you can protect your body and you have the right to say NO!

Answer 11

It really sounds like you are lying to yourself a little bit. You are making him out to be too nice. If he won't listen when you say no what makes you think he wouldn't take it a step further. This guy does not respect you, your feelings, or your body. Take a step back and examine what you're doing here. If you aren't comfortable with him then maybe you shouldn't be with him. Just my two cents. Whatever you do, good luck.