For quite a while my daughters Karate instructor has been into me,
On Monday we spent the night together for the 1st time, and we tried to do it but we were both too tired
He left in the morning and made it quite plain that he liked me and wanted to see me again,
He's explained he has lots of work going on but he's not even txt,
He called round last night briefly to say that he's busy, but yet tonight he went passed my house without calling in.
We had a great night,
But I have to go to the class on Monday, and I'm not sure how to play it,
If he's not bothered then ok but why tell me that he wants to see me
I'm a single Mum so at night I am usually at home,
But it feels like it's on his terms,
What do I do next ????
2007-05-30 11:07:31 · 12 answers · asked by Elle J Morgan 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For starters, stay outta bed with him. Sounds to me like he's playing you.....And whenever HE has the time, at that.
2007-05-30 11:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't Look For Him, Let Him Do His Business, But If He Just Said That He Likes You, Did You Believe Him In The First Place?, Don't Day Dream, If He Is A Busy Guy, He Might Do Something That You Wouldn't Like After All, Guys Don't Think About Only One Woman, So Watch Out, It's Your Decision....Good Luck....
2007-05-30 18:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by Fiersteh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be a bit embarrassed. Maybe he feels that things should have gone further but because they didn't that you might think less of him. Go to your class and just see how he is. Leave it till the end of the lesson to speak to him, see if he wants to go out for a drink. Don't ignore him in the class but don't be all over him. If he says he's too busy to go out and doesn't suggest another time, maybe he's not to keen. Double check that he's got your number and tell him to give you a call if he fancies going out!
2007-05-30 18:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either, he is really embarassed about the other night or he has decided against you. Play it cool, go to class, smile and say hello, but do not give any further eye contact during the lesson.
Leave it up to him, I'm suree he will be back if you give the cold shoulder approach - Remember, resist all temptation to text or call him!
2007-05-30 18:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by Ylang-Ylang 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be natural on Monday, in itself it's no big deal.
Saying he wants to see you could be serious and could just as easily be a face-saving "see ya" or keeping his options open. Take him aside and ask him exactly the stuff you asked here. Maybe slow it down on your own terms - have a couple of dates (maybe meet for lunch) before he spends another night and see how it goes.
2007-05-30 18:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It cannot be on his terms. You have to make it seem like you are busy as well. If he's really interested then he should be putting in more effort than what he's doing right now. You can't be always available when he feels like he wants to spend time with you.
2007-05-30 18:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is very early in the course of a relationship. He may simply be careful, which is not a bad thing. Feel free to ask him about this. Also ask him about his libido in general, and ask him about how romantic he is. He's not being very romantic right now, that's for sure.
2007-05-30 18:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its early days yet- take it as slow as he is- let him set the pace for a while- maybe he doesn't want to rush- maybe he's had his fingers burned and doesn't want to rush in and get hurt again. If you hurry him he might not be ready and you will lose out.
2007-05-30 18:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ellie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut feeling. If you feel uncomfortable about something express it to him. it's better to get it out now while it's still early rather than go with the flow and be hurt later.
2007-05-30 18:13:19 · answer #9 · answered by Mysterious101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps he's embarrassed he couldn't do it and is afraid it will happen again you know what men are like
2007-05-30 18:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by susan will of the wisp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋