My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years. When we first started dating, we both were fresh out of college and now he's more into his career (money wise) than I am. He makes over $100K more than me - but we split our rent and all the bills. My friends think that it is unfair that he is treating me as a "roommate" and incisting that we split everything when he makes sooo much more than me. My guy friend thinks he should pay the rent and I should pay all the bills - I think this is fair. He also askes if we're in love or just roommates. What do you think?
2007-05-30 10:24:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Does he live in the apartment more than you?
Does his day have longer than 24 hours so he has more of an opportunity to spend time in the apartment?
Is he stopping you from going out and getting a career that makes that much money?
Your friends are wrong. You chose a career that made less money than the career he chose. You can't penalize him for that. Half and Half is the fair way to do it.
2007-05-30 10:29:25 · answer #1 · answered by Takfam 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, tell him you read in a book that couples should pay bills on a percentage basis. That way, everyone pays according to their ability. So if 30% of what you make and 30% of what he makes pays the bills, that is good. You are left with 70% of your income and he is left with 70% of his income.
You can have a bank account where each of you put in the 30%. You use that back account to pay all your bills and food and such.
2007-05-30 10:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-06 08:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by riopel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say definately unfair! My bf makes a little more than me and that's exactly how we split it: he pays rent, I pay bills - and not even his cel phone bill or credit cards, just house stuff! It's a weird situation to approach, but it's not just a financial problem. He's being selfish, greedy and playing it off like he doens't even notice! Let him know how you feel!
2007-05-30 10:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by betsylokes 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
half n half works for so long, but if the guy honestly makes THAT MUCH MORE THAN YOU, hes a cheapskate if he wont pay all the bills, but think about it, he is still gonna spend more money on you if you pay some of the bills right?
2007-05-30 10:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by sml55rclc 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It both your place not his, 50/50. If he wants nicer things for that place then that's on him. If he's asking questions like that you should sit and talk it out, b/c that's not the kind of question you ask the person you have been with for two years.
2007-05-30 10:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes of course.
2007-05-30 10:37:18 · answer #7 · answered by Htown/Philly4life 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it shouldnt be that way at all even if he doesnt make that much more than you he should man up and take care of his girl unless your just a sexual partner to him does he plan on marring you if not then its high time for you to leave.
2007-05-30 10:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by richard b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should pay all of the rent.
What a cheap -skate.
2007-05-30 10:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by joey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no. you both live in the apartment and prob take up as much space. half n half. dont be cheap.
2007-05-30 10:28:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋