my now ex boyfriend assaulted me bad when he was drunk he usually started with verbally abusive comments but i thought this had changed when i dumped him before for it he was lovely to me until the last time when he nutted me strangled me and punched and kicked me too he swears he loves me and its just booze i dont know what to think i am so hurt and confused?
2007-05-30 10:11:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The booze might be the trigger, but he chooses to pick up that first drink doesn't he. Do yourself a massive favour and steer well clear.
2007-05-30 10:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
booze or no booze a guy should never hit a girl and if it is the booze what if he got drunk again but did something much worse
the best thing to do is stay away in my opinion
2007-05-30 17:31:49 · answer #2 · answered by mra0122000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you've had such a bad experience but not all men are like that. Maybe he has a drink problem but even that does not excuse his behaviour towards you. You deserve so much better, I know it must hurt but be good to yourself (cos doesn't sound like he is) and move on. Find some one who will treat you right. Good Luck x
2007-05-31 03:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by diamond Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of this you must know that things will never get better unless he seeks help. The abuse WILL get worse . keep yourself safely away from him & dont allow him to contact you till he has got help & overcame his violence/crime. booze is not a reason or excuse for this type of behaviour.
2007-05-30 17:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by carly16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not just booze!
He has these feelings and they 'may' be distorted by booze...but his violence and anger are both genuine and real and he needs to understand that!!!
You need someone to test your feelings with about this if you are going to make any attempt to re-build this relationship...otherwise close this chapter of your life and move on!
2007-05-30 17:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to stay away from him. That's not good to let a guy hit u at all. He is suppose to treat u like a queen not beat on you. That's not love that is abuse. Call the cops and bring his butt on charges.
2007-05-30 17:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by Mellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Helen, I would get out of the house and call the police.
If this is not the first time he has hit you, it most certainly wont be the last.
And it will get worse, he only loves you as a punch bag.
2007-05-30 17:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by billy big baws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness, he sounds dangerous, get a restraining order.
Being drunk is not an excuse of behaving badly, and it certainly isn't an excuse for the kind of treatment he's giving you.
This isn't love, dearie. I think you know this.
2007-05-30 18:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a man who deals with domestic violence on a proffesional basis unfortunately.
drink im afraid is a mirage to hide behind and to blame,yes drink can trigger things such as rage but it does mean those things are there in the first place.
sorry mike
2007-05-30 18:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by listener06y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you take a guy back after he has abused you it is like saying it is okay...you can hit me and I will still take you back.
This behavior on his part will not stop...blame it on booze or whatever...he is an abuser.
If you don't like being hit or possibly beat to death one day then dump the guy and stay away from him!!!
be cool...
2007-05-30 17:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋