My grandma said it's every female invited to the wedding... any other ideas or traditions I don't know about. I don't want to invite just random people like my fiance's friends wives...but I do want to maximize the presents!
2007-05-30 10:05:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We're only having about 100 guests total, and most guests have close relationships with us. A lot of them won't come because they live all over the world.
2007-05-30 10:14:29 · update #1
Grandma is kind of correct. I would only invite females that are invited to your wedding. Not necessarily ALL of them. Maximizing the presents really makes you sound pretty greedy. You might want to keep that part to yourself.
2007-05-31 05:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to invite EVERY female you've invited to the wedding...but everyone who is invited to the shower MUST be invited to the wedding as well.
I would keep it around 20-30 people--any more and it's just too much for anyone to keep a handle on, plus you start getting limited in locations that can handle a larger crowd of people. Keeping it to 20-30 means you can have it in someone's living room, or a private room of a restaurant.
I'm not even going to comment on the "maximizing the presents" remark....
2007-05-30 17:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All female wedding guests is a little extreme. The bridal shower guests should definitely all be invited to the wedding, but vice versa is not true. You do NOT have invite guests of your wedding guests.
You should definitely invite all female family members - both yours and his. Invite all the women in the bridal party. Invite your close female friends (and, as a courtesy, invite any close female friends of his). That should give you a pretty large group.
2007-05-30 17:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Alright if you do not have a wedding planner (they can help you with answers such as this) tradition is as this all females in the bridal party (maid of honor brides maids flower girl) if any of these are friends you grew up with then you should invite there mothers too of course you invite mothers from both sides and grandmothers from both sides You also invite any female that may be some part of the wedding even if not directly part of the ceremony (if you are having them help with decorations serving at the reception) if they are your friend or even your mothers or his mothers friends and they are helping out with your wedding then you invite them From there you can extend your invitation list but first and foremost the people connected with the wedding need to be invited if your ushers or groomsmen are seeing anyone or married to anyone then it would be polite to invite them too
2007-05-30 17:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by lynx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite who you want. With smaller weddings it's easier to invite everyone.
I will say you do need to invite your wedding party, mother, groom's mom, other close relatives, and friends that would be hurt if uninvited (ie: groom's female friends, or family friends). You should even invite relatives from far away, even if you know they can't make it. The gesture is a nice one. (Plus they will send a present. LOL)
Give your list to the maid of honor so she can send the invitations out.
2007-05-30 17:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My shower is three weeks away and I came to the conclusion you invite who you want to invite. Forget what everyone else says. You only get one shower, it's your day. The tradition is if the women are invited to the wedding they should be invited to the shower, but this day in age no one follows tradition. Do what you want to do or you will drive yourself crazy!
2007-05-30 17:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by nichole9719 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You extend an invitation to all the women invited to the wedding. It's up to them whether or not they want to travel to it or just send the gift and come to the wedding.
2007-05-30 17:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For my shower it was all of the aunts and grandma's, closest friends and cousins...from his family and mine. My friend included all of his family and had just one big shower rather than holding 2 "her family" and "his family" showers. By no means did she invite every female invited to the wedding...that would be crazy.
2007-05-30 17:12:29 · answer #8 · answered by breezer 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Are you ever greedy!
Usually a shower is for extended family on both sides and close friends - a gaggle of about 20 to 30 girls and women just getting together for a good TIME.
2007-05-31 05:29:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite as many as you want, if you know some wont be able to attend over invite.
2007-06-02 09:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by mamatucker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋