I was married this past Friday. A very high class ceremony with all the trimmings. Anyway to make a long story short:
We did all the normal stuff - speeches, dinner, 1st dance…. However, I will admit, I did rush through thanking all the guests for coming so I could have some time to grab to 'gift box' filled with all the envelopes.
I finished thanking the last table & told my wife I had to use the men's room - instead a took the box to our room and counted all the money. It was eating me alive to se how much these people gave.
About 90 minutes later my wife and some other concerned guests found me in the hotel room. I explained what I was doing but they were very angry.
I really was not gone that long & don't think it is that big of a deal. I wanted to make sure we made a profit on the wedding. What is wrong with that?
We are now on our honeymoon and she will barley talk to me. I'm stuck surfing the net while I should be having fun. What is so wrong with what I did?
2007-05-30 09:00:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Poor wife.... Is it too late to get it annulled??? I know it's terrible to be on your honeymoon and regret marrying the guy - regardless of the reason... extreme, inappropriate greed or whatever....
Give her my condolences and best wishes on the marriage. No need to look for a cheque attached to this message - there isn't one.
2007-05-30 09:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
So, you left your own wedding for 90 minutes so you could count the money you made? You don't understand why your wife is mad at you? Last time I checked, the purpose of a wedding was not to make money. I'm also pretty sure my wife would have went postal had I chosen to leave the wedding reception for 90 minutes for anything! I also think the most appalling thing is that you seem to be saying you would have confronted anyone who you felt didn't give you enough money right there at the reception. Personally, had I attended your wedding, I'd ask for my gift back! You've upset and humiliated your wife. Everyone that knows why you were gone for so long is probably furious to know they took time out of their busy lives to celebrate a happy occasion of someone they care about, only to find out just how shallow that person is. Your family must be downright ashamed. Yet, you still have no clue what you did that was so wrong.....ridiculous!
2016-04-01 05:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a woman's point of view, your new wife is probably upset because she felt that you should be concentrating on your wedding, the guests, and especially on her. For her, it was probably a really romantic event that she had been dreaming about for a long time. She probably didn't understand your need to count money and see if you made a profit on your wedding day. Also, you told her you were going to the bathroom but then you were gone for 1 1/2 hours. She was probably worried about you, only to find that you were upstairs counting money instead of hanging out with your new bride. Just try to see it from her point of view, and above all, give a heartfelt apology. She married you, so she obviously loves you very much. The sooner you own up to doing something dumb (without intending to), the sooner she will forgive you and you can both move on to a much happier honeymoon.
2007-05-30 09:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by la2philly 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That was supposed to be your wedding day and your sitting in the hotel room counting money? You really showed your wife where your priorities were. You wanted to make sure you made "a profit" off the wedding. Did you marry her because you loved her or because it sounded like a good business venture? I don't blame her for being mad. That was her special day and you took it away from her. The only thing I can tell you is to take that money you got from the wedding and buy her something really nice.
2007-06-03 08:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by Angela C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were gone for 90 minutes you said. Why would you expect to "make a profit" on the wedding? Maybe you should have skipped the honeymoon and gone to work instead if you're so concerned with money. I'd be pissed, too. You could have atleast waited until after the reception was over.
2007-06-03 02:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by christina30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's mad b/c it was very selfish and greedy. She's also probably upset b/c the wedding is supposed to be a time when you and your friends and family celebrate the coming together of two people. Its not about making money! Its a celebration, not a business!
Your guests were upset b/c it was very rude of you to leave them to count money. Traditionally, you aren't even supposed to open gifts until after your honeymoon. And gits are optional. You don't invite people just for gifts. And they don't have to bring you anything if they chose not too.
Instead of writing thank you notes, you need to write apology notes, if you ever want to "have fun" with your wife again.....
2007-05-30 09:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You should have been celebrating the beautiful wedding and excitement of spending the rest of your life with her instead of seeing what "profit you made". You can't be that dumb. You dont have a wedding to make a profit. A beautiful wedding is supposed to signify the beautiful relationship you and your wife share. I believe she had every right to bring thos concerned guests with her. Im sure the guests found out soon after what you had done and despise you for it, as they should. Now everyone knows what you are really like. It sounds to me like you ahve everything *** backwards and I hope your wife divorces you fast. Were you expecting to make a profit on the kids too??? Shame on you, you scumbag...
2007-05-30 09:27:05 · answer #7 · answered by for me to know, you to not... 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Would it really have been so bad, to wait and count it WITH her? When my friends got married, they opened the monetary donations and after the reception and announced what they got. "Monetary donation" or whatever the gifts was. Who gives a hoot if there was a profit, or when it gets done. And the way you started this question "A very high class ceremony with all the trimmings." has me pitying this new-bride already. You'd better get to some serious @$$kissing for your actions. It was selfishly greedy of you to ditch her to count the money.
2007-05-30 09:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by Madison G 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Really? You don't think you did anything wrong? For starters how about leaving your bride at the wedding? You're supposed to enjoy your wedding, and celebrate that you've just committed yourselves to each other. Instead you left her alone at the celebration and went off to see if you had "made a profit on the wedding". You say that you weren't gone that long, but you say 90 minutes later they came looking for you. Dude you'll be lucky if you're out of the dog house in a month.
2007-05-30 09:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by kassy 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You left your new wife alone to go and count some money? What did you do wrong? You put some money ahead of her! You were thinking of cash when you should have been enjoying the most special occasion of your life! What the he** is wrong with you?
I really like the way you worded your last two sentences. "I'm stuck surfing the net while I should be having fun"
Only thinking of yourself! You should be having fun with your wife! Your poor wife.
2007-05-30 09:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am hysterical.
Are you serious?
You're all wrong if you are serious.
You leave your own wedding to count money and see if you made a profit?????
First, you don't get married to make a profit.
How rude can you be to leave your new wife and guests who are still at your reception?
Tell you what you do to Make things Right.
You send back All the money to every guest; thank them for sharing your special day.
Actually, let your wife choose what gifts she wants to keep; she'll need the money for a Divorce....
2007-05-30 09:15:52 · answer #11 · answered by cut-it-out 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋