How is it for females in the military?

Question

I'm keen on hearin' what it was like for you in the army. I'm a medic in the army.

I also have a question: Should I sleep with my chain in command (he's married!)? Honestly, he keeps on pressuring me to. I said no for quite a while, and I have not been promoted at ALL, and have been kinda ostracized.

And please don't say "Yeah, if he's good looking" or other answers like that.

Has anyone ever had experienced this? It's really annoying!

Answer 1

Whether you sleep with your Chain of Command depends on you. What is the For Sale price of your Ethics?

Sounds like an invite for some major MAJOR drama to me.

Answer 2

I'm not going into the four different ways you gave it away, but you're full of crap. You've never actually BEEN in the military.

Elizabeth, it's not. I wasn't kidding when I said there are four dead-bang giveaways that she's a fake.

One, if she wanted to know what it's like for females in the military, she could ask the ones nearby. They are anything but scarce.

Two, it's not "chain IN command", it's "chain OF command", and you learn that phrase in the first week of BCT.

Three, he'd be referred to as a "commander" or "captain" or "sergeant" or "squad leader". "Chain of command" is not a singular noun.

Four, at the lowest levels of rank, which is the only place you MIGHT find someone that never heard of the IG, the promotions are pretty much automatic and the "chain of command" can't stop them without filing adverse action (Article 15).

She's a fake.

Answer 3

First off, do not sleep with your chain-of-command, no matter how much he is pressuring you. He is violating Article 134 (basically the catch-all article)

"That, under the circumstances, the accused’s conduct was to the prejudice of good order and discipline in the armed forces or was of a nature to bring discredit upon the armed forces."

and Article 80 (attempt)

“(a) An act, done with specific intent to commit an offense under this chapter, amounting to more than mere preparation and tending, even though failing, to effect its commission, is an attempt to commit that offense.

(b) Any person subject to this chapter who attempts to commit any offense punishable by this chapter shall be punished as a court-martial may direct, unless otherwise specifically prescribed.

(c) Any person subject to this chapter may be convicted of an attempt to commit an offense although it appears on the trial that the offense was consummated.”

I would let your superior know that if he does not stop pressuring you to commit adultery with him, then you will take it up the chain-of-command. If you receive any harassment from this or are "demoted" in any way I would let Military Equal Opportunity (MEO) know what was done to you. You can also call your superior on sexual harrasment charges as well.

As for women in the military, I enjoy it. I am in the air force and am stationed in Germany. I enjoy the respect I get for being in the military and enjoy that the air force is very female friendly. They (they being my supervisors and my chain-of-command) take care of us (us being my fellow airmen, whether they be male or female) and make sure that we are well taken care of. Also there are plenty of people to talk to if any of us feel threatened or harassed in any way.

But as I said before, take this up your chain-of-command and if any repercussions should fall on you, document it and take it to MEO. Hope this has helped you.

Answer 4

I'm not in the Army. But I think its always a bad Idea to sleep with a married man... put yourself in his wife' position. If I were you I would begin to document everything he does that ostracizes you or makes you feel uncomfortable and pressured by him. Then you can go above his head and complain... it will be hard because we understand its the military its a different way of life... but don't sleep with a married man, you will not fill good about yourself afterwards and there is no guarantee it will help your situation... it could in fact make it worse!

Answer 5

You absolutely CANNOT be serious? You would consider sleeping with someone in your chain of command for a promotion? Thanks for helping to propogate the false stereotypes regarding women in the military. You make me sick.

By the way, a person is not your "Chain in Command." The proper term is "Chain OF Command," and it's the line of supervisory personnel above you. A person is a link in the chain of command.

Answer 6

I'm in 19 years and I've been through that. I reported to my XO and CO and that person was taken out of my chain of command. Sexual harassment is still a big problem with us women in the armed forces. Take a stand and report him.

Answer 7

Do not sleep with your chain of command. He should be up on charges- he has violated so many UMCJ rules. Talk to JAG about this. It will not hurt your career- just his. He is also married ? what does this say about his integrity, and morality. He has evidently forgotten the Army values. He disgusts me.

Answer 8

report him. he shouldnt get away with harassing you. dont you get briefings about this every few months? i know we did. and no, dont sleep with him. its one thing to do it if you want to, him being married or not, but its a whole nother thing to do it because hes threatening you. is there another nco above you that u can talk to about this? who can maybe watch over his actions towards you so that its not just your word against his? no, i never experienced anything like this while in the military, but i was only in for a year. i was never treated differently because of my gender.

Answer 9

Your ENTIRE chain of command or just one link in it? Your poor grasp of the terminology makes me inclined to doubt that you are in the military at all.

Answer 10

Its great for females in the military, they are always beautiful no matter what they look like. A girl who is ugly at home is beautiful to someone when they are in Iraq.