I'm 38 with 2 teenages and a 4 year old. My daughter won't live with me because she say's she don't like my boyfriend. The 4 year really likes him. I miss my daughter but not working right now and my x gives me no child support! Move home with mom and dad or try to work it out with the x or stay with my boyfriend even if i'm not sure if i love him?!
2007-05-30 08:20:32 · 7 answers · asked by Deja Blue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to your daughter and find out why she doesnt like him ?
perhaps she has valid reasons.
as to try work it out with ex is tough as you need to ask yourself why you left in the 1st place .
and moving in with a guy that you are not sure about is a bad move as he may kick you out anytime.
Mum and dad maybe a better solution for now till you are more settled and they can help with your kids
good luck
2007-05-30 08:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by aunt_webby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about moving back with your parents, or anyone else in your family. If you do that, you'll forever be the family puppet, unable to do anything unless they want you to, and prohibited from getting married, even if you're ready to. You bf likely loves you. Does your x? You probably love your bf, in which case the real question is, how much? But you're uncertain (maybe on purpose? or maybe not). You should stay with him, until you know for sure, that you don't love him.
Once you're sure that you don't, then try again with your ex. You're better off, not living the lifestyle that C.L.A.W lives, and your children would be better off having a father, even if it's a step father. Kids who have a father do better in school, than kids who don't have one. That's a known but not easily admitted fact.
2007-05-30 15:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what is best for you and your children. Putting a man before you child is just not right. I would hope your daughter is more important to you then that. Leave your boyfriend and stay with your parents until you can get a job and get on your feet and support yourself and your children. Go to court and make sure your ex pays you child support.
2007-05-30 15:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not sure if you love him, then you probably don't love him. Tell your BF to give you sometime to think and that you are moving out for a six month trial period. Tell him you don't want him to call you or come by. You need to get your head together. I did this with my long time BF and made up my mind that I didn't want to be with him in two weeks.
Also, take you child's father to court. They will make him pay you child support.
2007-05-30 15:26:48 · answer #4 · answered by SunnyMoon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mind is on off. Raise your children please without live/ ins. Go home, get a job, apply for section 8 housing. Do without men till these kids are raised. Go out sat. eve. but I emphasize that you need to provide a family setting for these kids, they have this god given right. Go to church as a family. Ask for Gods help.
2007-05-30 15:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by kim 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is the bf offering engagement? if not go home with the parents for awhile....the ex is gone right?
2007-05-30 15:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't use the "boyfriend". sounds like you are only around for what you can get. be nice to him and tell him goodbye.
2007-05-30 15:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋