I am 15 and my cousin is 9. Why does my mom have a big issue with me hanging out with her sometimes. Sometimes I like to sit down with her in the dark and tell her ghost stories. She loves hearing my ghost stories and I scare the bejeezus out of her. Hahahahaha! She is a girl and I also have another girl cousin around my age who is 13 and sometimes we play bingo and stuff. My mom will be like, 'why don't you play with Aaron?' Aaron is there brother, my boy cousin. I mean, I hope my mom doesn't have such a sick mind as to think her own child would commit incest. What other reason is there? She hit the ceiling last week just because she saw me and Alicia hanging out. Alicia always begs me to tell her ghost stories and stuff or just play other games and have fun. I also like playing with my other cousin, Andrea. I just like playing with Aaron less because the only thing he likes to do is watch boring movies and play boring video games.
2007-05-30 08:02:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she's a paranoid control freak. she might be hiding something or maybe something happenned to her. if you ignore her she might not let you hang out with them anymore plus she will resent you for disobeying her, but if you listen to her you still may not be able to hang out with them anymore and you will resent her. this is too personal for anyone other then you and her to work out.
2007-05-30 08:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by case h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doggonit. I have sweet sweet memories of my older boy cousin playing bingo games and telling me ghost stories when I was a little kid. To this day I think highly of my cousin - great guy - has 3 beautiful and intelligent kids - and he's been long-married to an angel who actually deserves such a wonderful man.
OK. Did you tell your mom about Aaron's boring movies and boring video games? That's not a fun thing.
How about inviting all 3 cousins (in your mother's presence) to game night - play bingo, monopoly etc. - no video games - but make sure all 3 are invited - Aaron included. Same thing with ghost stories.
And what about watching old scary movies - you can rent them cheap enough - invite the three over for that too. make popcorn and drink koolaid. If Aaron decides to decline - at least he was invited. But make sure you mom knows that you DID invite Aaron specifically.
And if Aaron chooses not to join in the fun - well, he was specifically invited and he chose not to.
And how about inviting Mom in on some of the games and ghost story sessions - then she'll see you're just into having a great time with your cousins. And Aaron WAS invited. He just chose to decline.
2007-05-30 08:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are doing nothing wrong (and I think you know what I mean here) then I don't see anything wrong with "hanging" out with your younger female cousins. Besides, you are kind of acting as an older brother to the 9 year old by telling her scary stories and scaring her. For the most part though, it seems like you just have more in common with your female cousins than your male cousin.
Maybe your mom is just concerned that you don't get along with boys your age well. Maybe she just wants you to be able to "fit in" with your age/gender group.
Have a talk with your mom and let her know that it's a matter of mutual interest and nothing else. Tell her you are not intentionally trying to exclude your male cousin. Hopefully, she will see things for what they are and stop worrying.
2007-05-30 10:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lwood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with playing with your female cousins. Hopefully your mother's mind isn't sick enough to think you are committing incest. She maybe just wants to be involved in more male activities. I am with you though, I wouldn't want to just sit around and watch movies and play video games, they can be fun sometimes, but they get boring fast. Just explain to your mom why you feel that Aaron is boring, maybe that will help her understand. She may also have a fear that you are homosexual if you would rather play with the girls instead of the guy. Good luck to you! Keep a good relationship with all of your cousins! They are your family!
2007-05-30 08:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, it's a little unusual for a 15 yr old boy to hang out with younger girls! It doesn't look to good you taking them in a dark room either! I know you've done it for entertainment, but you never know when one of them may accuse you of something. I don't think your Mom thinks you'll do anything inappropriate, but I think she's trying to protect you all! It's crazy in this day and age anymore! I'd talk to your Mom and tell her why you don't like playing with Aaron and why you like the girls more. Things are always better when you can talk them out and get it resolved. Good Luck!
2007-05-30 08:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit her down and explain why you feel this way,
do you have any siblings?
and hellz ya girls are alot more fun to play with because they have such an imagination at that age.
I dont think your mom really knows alot about it so she just dosent want to.
I have an only child who plays with her older cousin and he dosent seem to mind playing her silly little games.
she is 9 and he's 14 but then again he dosent have any siblings either so it might be a loneness thing.
but if you have any questions and she thinks this of you ask her point blank if she thinks your capable of incest.
this might help to clear the air.
2007-05-30 08:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by Aaron_Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be the incest she is worried about. Maybe she thinks you are gay? She reacts like this because you are playing with girls, when you should be playing with boys. Just like some men can't tolerate their sons playing with dolls, they automatically assume they are gay. Now I'm not saying you are, but she might possibly think this, I don't know. But i would tell her what you told everyone here. Tell her you just have more fun with the girls and aren't interested in what Aaron likes to do. She should understand. Good luck!
2007-05-30 08:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the way people look at a 15 year old boy who plays with a 9 year old girl it looks or is socially retarded. She should be playing with children her own age not you. Its creepy. If youre in a group setting fine but you dont need to be playing with her all the time. Go make friends with kids your own age. You are asking for trouble.
2007-05-30 09:03:11 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a heart to heart talk with your mom. Tell her everything you wrote here. Tell her how it makes you feel, and why you would rather play games than watch television or play video games with the other cousin. Maybe you can get him interested in playing with you and your girl cousins. It would be worth a try to ask him.
2007-05-30 08:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try explaining to your mom why you don't like hanging out with Aaron. I don't believe you would do anything wrong with your cousin, you're pretty much just acting like a big brother,
well, that's what it seems like.
2007-05-30 08:12:19 · answer #10 · answered by Band RULES!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is worried about the inappropriateness of your behavior. Teen boys are horny critters, and you cording yourself off in a dark room is mildly erotic--to adults. this is your cousin, and anything you do stupidly reflects on her. Its a concern you realize adults are watching waiting for you to see if your a perv or not. So act with dignity, realize your at an age now, where alot of 15 year olds goof up behavior, esp. when it comes to girls.
2007-05-30 08:09:47 · answer #11 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋