My step dad is always putting me down. I have a really close friend and I we say I love ya, but we mean it like sisters. So my step dad in turn always is calling me a lesbian and stuff. I tell my mon about it but she just says he's joking. I don't take it as a joke because my sister is a lesbian and it really bugs me. We don't have a good relationship as father daughter already and he just makes it worse.
2007-05-30 07:56:28 · 15 answers · asked by DJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell your step dad how it makes you feel when he makes such comments. Present your case maturely and respectful. If he still continues to do so, after the talk, then try to ignore him. No reaction to the teasing means no fun for him and then he will stop.
2007-05-30 10:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by Lwood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your step father and mother at the same time (maybe at dinner) how it upsets you so much. How disrespectful you find it --not only to you but to your sister that is lesbian. Ask that if he wants to joke/pick on you have him chose another way of teasing you.
If he continues to do so after discussing things with them as suggested. Talk to a trusted adult about the situation that would be able to help approach your mom and step dad. Maybe someone like your dad, a teacher, aunt, uncle, a friends mom/dad.
whatever you do, don't accept this. You deserve better and so does your sister.
2007-05-30 08:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Susie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi court, I am so sorry to hear this. A parent should never do this. If you don't get the counseling, I would seek out the Family services, a school teacher, or even the law. Child abuse is against the law. I will pray for your safety, and that your step dad change his heart for you. If you ever want, e mail me. †Prayer Warrior At Your Request†
2016-05-17 05:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem for a good counselor.
First, your mother is choosing your step-dad over you. That's plain wrong. She needs to wake up and see to your needs first - not his.
next your stepdad is being a jerk. What concerns me is why he's being a jerk - Is there something even more insidious than this going on in his mind?
And joking about someone's sexuality is not funny. And it's alienating you from your mother. She's the one who is key in this - what a mess is she!
IF you can't speak with your mother, try the school's counselor or your minister. Maybe they can give you more personal advice than I can - but definitely speak with a professional about this. It's not good.
2007-05-30 08:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your mom or write her a letter and really explain that his name calling is making you upset. Let her know that it's not a joke to you and you want him to stop. Let her know it's makes you uncomfortable.. Ask her could she please talk to your stepdad in private about the things he says to you and about trying to consider your feelings more.
2007-05-30 08:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by Americka S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with him one on one and explain to him how you feel about the things he says. If he's just playing he should stop. If he's just a jerk then your mom should see him for who he is and intervene.
2007-05-30 08:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by Manuel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother needs to set him straight and stop making excuses for him. Tell her by allowing him to do say cruels things like this to her own flesh and blood, she could be setting herself up to never see you again.
2007-05-30 08:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he calls you a lesbian then say i know he will say it some more times and just say i know soon he will not find it funny and he will stop
2007-06-02 22:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore him, he wants a rise outta u.or just tease him back, tell him in front of your mom, out of the blue his boyfriend called,that may wake him up a bit.
2007-05-30 08:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by helpfull2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you try to ignore him? Keep ignoring him every time he says that, and when he sees it is not bothering you, eventually he will probably stop.
2007-05-30 08:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by WE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋