I live bymyself I have a girlfriend I have a job but my family is piss broke all the time my other 6 brothers and sisters are starving ,always calling me they they get a check from ssi retirement fund but they have no good money management skills so they call and call and it makes me sad ! My mom refuses to cook and my dad never helps out they wont leave me alone and they will make me feel bad for not bringing them a pizza everyday!! They call me an ********e brother for not helping them out while Im working my butt off to pay my own bills should I worry???
2007-05-30 07:40:40 · 9 answers · asked by harlingenguy_2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OK Family is blood. Go home one day a week. Bring or cook a dinner--a treat! Be a blessing--mow their yard. Thats being a good example. Your role modleing what a man does, so that these kids will want to be like you and yet give back to family. Your not the dad, so stop worrying about that role. Be the best son you can, and then walk away happy. If things are dire, bring groceries and a smile one day a week and teach oldest kids how to cook a meal! God will see your honor, don't forget hugs and love! You'll sleep well.
2007-05-30 07:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by kim 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're a good son for being concerned. I wish I had a son like you.
That said, schedule an evening with your folks to go over their finances. Bring pizza or hot dogs or whatever.
Then help them set a budget that will cover their bills, food etc. and show them how to live by it. Be sure to include some luxuries - box pizza from the grocery etc. - but make it a budget that they can live within their means.
Then when they call and complain - Well, is there some reason as to why you went off your budget? Oh. you got your nails done and bought carry-out 4 nights this week? Ah I see. Well, sorry I can't help you on that one.
If the younger (and I presume under-age) children are indeed going without basic necessities, then I'm afraid that you will have to call the authorities on your folks for neglect. Inform your parents of this - that either they get help managing their money or you will have no choice but to call child protection.
In fact, it sounds as though your parents are clinically depressed. It might be good for them to get evauated by the SSI folks. They are in need of mental help as much as financial.
But bottom line - yes, you should be worried about your younger siblings - and don't be afraid to call the authorities on your parents if they refuse to get help.
It may be possible for you to get custody of the 6 kids - which will relieve you of having to care for your parents - and which will give you better control over how the SSI money is spent for the kids - like better nutrition. But that will require a lawyer and a whole lot of work. Might be worth it tho.
2007-05-30 14:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
worry?!!!! Move far, far away and quit supporting those who refuse to help themselves. I know it's hard to face the fact that those you care about are using you for a free ride, but open your eyes, honey. Take a jar of peanut butter and a loaf of bread, not pizza. you are enabling your family to use you because you feel obligated. It's okay to say no and still love them. It's not okay for them to all expect a free ride, family or not. It's good to help those you love through a financial crisis but not by puting your own life into a crisis situation. would they help you if you needed them?? have they ever, with anything? this is what you need to ask yourself to come to a complete decision.
2007-05-30 14:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by jenna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to love your family, but protect yourself at the same time! Just sit them down and tell them, you love them, but will NOT help them financially!!! We've had to do the same in my family. It would be different, if helping them actually helped them, but it never does. They will suck you dry if you don't become firm with them! Give when you want to, but make a firm rule that you will not give when they ask! You have to take care of YOU first and they are adults that choose not to care for themselves, so don't let it make you feel guilty!!! You've already done for them, probably more than you really wanted to, so they can't say you've been selfish! Good Luck, you're doing a great job for yourself!!
2007-05-30 14:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to do their money handling and shopping for them. DON'T ever use your money for them. And why should you be bringing them pizza. You've worked hard (I'm assuming here) to get where you are. If there are young children in the home you can call social services or child welfare, or whaever you have where you are. It's not your responsibility to care for your family. You have left and given them one less mouth to feed.
2007-05-30 14:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should worry-about yourself. You survived this family and now its time to wean them off. You can be nice and help them with money management, cooking classes etc. but not with pizza.
2007-05-30 14:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by petra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
needy family and siblings is the endless hole (and often ungrateful). They will never leave you alone unless you set limits for yourself. Like for example you might decide to put aside $50 to help them out and you can not go over this limit without hurting your own budget.
2007-05-30 14:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by kioto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move, change your phone number and don't give them any info about your whereabouts.
2007-05-30 14:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they qualify for food stamps?
2007-05-30 14:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋