My close friend whom I met towards the last of last year, is currently dating the guy that I've had a serious crush on for 2 years. He knew I liked him, and so did she. But in october or so, some things started happening with him and his ex, and my close friend just happened to be there for him. He suffered a lot, and she was the one who was there to pick him up from the floor. I have always been there, but in those months following, it seemed I was pushed out into the cold, and she was the only one he cared for.
He's led me on, and she started dating him officially some time in Febuary or so...
She and I have talked about the events and all, And I had a chance to get out most of what I've been feeling.
But I still have all of this anger and hurt built up, and I don't know how to deal with it, or get rid of it.
Any suggestions?
2007-05-30 07:38:45 · 14 answers · asked by AshAhLee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't give your friend any more information on how you feel. Everything you tell her could eventually make it to this guy's ears. You don't want them to talk about you, do you? I would personally hate that.
Just tell yourself it's over and that you are moving on. Let them live a happy life and so should you. That means stop hanging around them, and politely excuse yourself from any involvement with them. The more you communicate with them, the worse it will get. You need to start fresh. It sounds like a cliche, but there are plenty of fish in the sea.
And if you look anywhere as cute as your avatar, I doubt it will be long before you find someone-else.
2007-05-30 07:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by Traqqer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I very rarely get angry, but when I do I lose it fast. I could count on one hand how many times I've actually got angry in the past year, but those few times were (I'm not proud to say) physically violent. The average thing someone gets irritated about doesn't faze me at all - I'm almost always still calm when everyone's freaking out, but I'm not the most pleasant when angered. Aquarius Aries moon Capricorn Ascendant Gemini Mars Mars in 4th House ("stormy family lifem where her aggressiveness shows itself" - 100% true - the only person that has ever made me lose it is my sister lol!) Trine Sun Mars So generally yeah, I handle my emotions and anger well. Like anyone though I snap if you push me too far, I guess.
2016-05-17 05:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by maybelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, so you talked to her already - and I don't recommend talking to him.
I would talk to another close friend you can trust, or a counsellor. I'd write a lot in my journal - that has helped me so much over the years (I had an experience a bit like yours and my journal writing helped me the most). I personally find that running or burning up angry energy in exrecise is great too and makes you physically feel better.
And also, time helps too - in conjunction with all the above - give yourself some time. It is OK to feel like you do, and the feelings will fade eventually, I promise! Good luck.
2007-05-30 07:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything for revenge, just move on with your life.
You say that he knew you liked him. He must have known that she liked him, too. He made his choice.
But that doesn't give you an excuse to do something spiteful towards either of them. Be an adult, act mature, and move on with your life. Start dating someone else, and have fun, and don't stew over this.
Maybe some day they'll break up, and maybe you'll have a chance to date him. Put yourself in his shoes - would you date someone who was mean to someone you once liked, or who keyed her car, or slit your tire, or told lies about you? Or would you rather date someone who has shown that they can handle adversity with poise and grace?
2007-05-30 07:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let go of these feelings and realize that by holding onto them you aren't hurting anyone but yourself. and that by fogiving them for what they done you are healing yourself and that you deserve to be whole again.
If you are still having trouble, try googling letting go and moving on and you should find something that i helps. I know that they helped me when an ex best friend flaked out on me so badly that it killed the friendship
2007-05-30 07:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by asguard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I put up with bullying, so what I do is write my feelings out, like a book or poetry, me I just write poems and theyre called pretty good.
2007-05-30 07:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try and put yourself in your friends shoes? I mean I know it isn't completely correct but in the end if they both like each other you can't help it girl.
Find yourself a better deserving guy :)
CheerS!
2007-05-30 07:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by Ajay C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she hurt you very much and at this time you don't think that it is wise for you two to talk until you get over the situation.
2007-05-30 07:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just dont talk to or spend time with the person until they show me they've changed, BUT IT IS VERY IMPORTANT THAT THEY KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH, if you just give them the cold shoulder they'll just say **** it and move on without you
2007-05-30 07:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by A Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just cut the negative people out of your life..its not worth it trust me..Ive had this happen to me twice and finally i realized i am worthy and I am beyond these stupid immature hs bs
2007-05-30 07:42:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋