Spent 7 years being part of a couple, have been single now for 8 months with the odd casual thing inbetween. Love the freedom of being single however, I have met someone who I would like to commit to... but I think I come across too carefree and independent!! Advice?
2007-05-30 07:28:41 · 4 answers · asked by Eileen M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Continue to be carefree and independent, so what if you intimidate men, they are allowing themselves to feel intimidated by you. When you find someone who loves you for just being yourself then you've found "The One". You shouldn't have to change yourself for someone else.
2007-05-30 07:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by Treasure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you told this someone how you feel about being in a realationship? Maybe you should explain how you feel and how you think about it and take it from there. Because men myself included don't do well reading minds, not to mention picking up on non verbal cues. especially if its a cue to ask something or exspress an emotion or feeling. Some men are intimidated by independent women for many reasons. a few of them are simple, if a man isnt where he wants to be in life but a woman is. not only is that intimidating but its frustrating specially if hes doing his best to get there. the man may view that as a self conciuos thing, it can inspire and it can destroy a mans ability to keep the title of a MAN. there are ways that indipendent women make men feel by being aggrssive to the point where you are demanding of something that you either really can't get from that man or that you may have gotten in the past but want it in the future or present for that matter. that would make a man withdarw faster that a guy getting caught at a strip club by a non open mind wife. Anyway the best way for u to fix this situatiion is to communicate without bias and a open heart.
2007-05-30 07:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by Q Mann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be yourself. If this person finds you too carefree and independent you need to look elsewhere. Sooner or later your real personality will emerge. Don't try to be someone you're not. Eventually you will find someone else who loves a carefree, independent woman.
2007-05-30 07:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest. you could do it in an off-hand way, to make it a little less intense and scary to do, but just let him know that while being single is fun, you really like him. if he runs, was he worth it anyway? and if he doesn't, well, you have yourself a relationship. Honesty is the best policy in any healthy relationship.
2007-05-30 07:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by crystal_sea24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋