I'm 14, 8 months ago I went through a bad phase. Bad crowd, I got disrespectful, fough ta alot w/ my lil bro. I regretted and apologized sincerely, but I got a harsh punsihment and for some months especially my mom tortured me emotionally, showing she didn't trust me though I had apologized and showed that had been just a bad phase, They didn't act like parents, showed they didn't love me. I got very sad and depressed, even has suicide thoughts. Fortunately some people , especially my grandma helped me, showed trust and understood me. She could convince them to let me live w/ her from July on and I was very happy about this. But now my parents came up w/ the bad idea we should try family therapy to fix our relationship. They decided against my will and I have no choice. What can I expect from it? I'm afraid the teherapist will be against me. I think a fair condition for me to cooperate is the therapist don't say anything I don't want to hear. This should be a contract.
2007-05-30 07:21:17 · 5 answers · asked by Mariah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try to give it a try as a wish of ur parents..
Try to give ur unconditional love to ur parents and win their trust.. i m sure ur parents will love u even more..
Sometimes communication helps..try talking 2 them frankly..
hope it helps..
all the best..
May God bless each one of us..
2007-05-30 07:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by m_s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son and I went to family therapy for a long time.
The therapist is supposed to take a neutral stance and not make judgments nor take sides. That's kind of tough because we all want to have allies - but you'll be pretty much out in the open.
S/he will ask pretty probing questions - of everyone - you, your parents, siblings. Those can be pretty tough to answer - but be brave and answer truthfully. Even if it means admitting you were wrong to do this or that.
One thing that's good is you'll have a chance to bring out all the issues that really punch your buttons - For example. You feel really upset that your Mom throws your bad patch in your face a lot. That will be something she will have to answer for. Just make sure you don't use superlatives like "all the time" or "Never" or "always."
Make sure you can say - I feel ___ (something = upset, frustrated, happy etc.) when you do ____ (throw my mistakes at me, get into my stuff, smile and play nicely with me, etc.).
It's ok to say that you feel some way - just be sure to exlpain it in detail. And people don't understand "slang" so use plain English.
Finally, remember - you are not the only one hurting. So cut people some slack.
Good luck.
2007-05-30 08:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you expect a therapist to not say anything you don't want to hear? The whole point of therapy is to get all that stuff out in the open so it can be addressed. Just remember that the therapist isn't on anyone's side. They are studying the dynamics of how you relate to your family and what to do to make communication easier. There doesn't need to be a 'bad guy' in all this.
2007-05-30 07:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest, be yourself. Make sure you are allowed to speak your mind without fear of punishment. Tell your therapist you fear being ganged up on. But also keep in mind you may also have to hear things you dont want to hear. Its about healing everyone, not just you. If they thought the problem was only you then they wouldnt be going. They are trying to be better parents too.
2007-05-30 07:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write to them a letter so as which you would be able to say thoroughly clarify to them what's on your strategies without interruption from them. proceed with this custom until they are waiting to pay attention your attitude in the past commencing their lecture.
2016-11-23 18:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by woodmansee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with it.... you created the problem so take whats coming. It will make you a better person.
2007-05-30 07:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋