Me and my husband want to have our children close together....we have and adorable 7 month old son already and I want to go ahead and have another baby and so does my hubby but i dont want to be pregnant!! the aches the pains the GOING TO THE BATHROOM EVERY 5 MINUTES!!! and also i gained alot of weight with our son 58lbs to be exact and ive lost 44lbs of it but im still heavier than i want to be and ive always heard that you should always loose all your weight before you have another baby because then its your fat not baby fat! Am I being to selfish???? what should we do?
2007-05-30 06:55:56 · 11 answers · asked by Mary V 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I won't be in a rush.
I am atleast 8-13 years younger than all my siblings and I am very close with all of them.
2007-05-30 07:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by ☮ Erica ☮ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that every pregnancy is different. Some women go through hell the first time, then don't feel pregnant at all the second time (of course, the peeing thing is the same either way!) You're not being selfish. It's normal for a woman to be concerned about these things. After all, you're not JUST a mother. Of course you'll gain weight if you get pregnant again, but you might even end up not weighing much more than you did at the end of your first pregnancy. If most women waited until they lost all the baby weight from their first pregnancies, there would be a lot of one-child families out there!
Good luck with your decision.
2007-05-30 14:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stress too much about it. Even if you wait 2 more months and diet and lose the rest of the weight, your children will only be 18 months apart and that is a good amount of time between babies. I don't think you are being selfish to want to get your body back in shape before putting it through the trauma of childbirth again. Having a baby puts lots of stress on your body. But, just remember that pregnancy is only a small portion of your time with your baby, so it will be over sooner than you think (especially when you have a young one keeping your mind off of it!)
2007-05-30 14:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy to 3 beautiful babies! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get pregnant for your child's sake - get pregnant because you want another baby.
Medically, you should wait two years before concieving again.
My mom and sisters had kids 15 to 18 months apart, and we fought all the time.
I had my boys four years apart, and have never regretted it.
My older son loved 'his' baby and would bring adults to rescue him, even when they were already in the room.
When they went bike riding and Will [ 8 ] broke his arm, Rob [ 12 ] put him in the tub and washed him and scrubbed his hair so he could go to the ER.
They are now 18 and 22, and have always gotten along well
95% of the time.
2007-05-30 14:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try adopting- there are millions of orphans around the world and although it can be costly you won't gain weight, you can choose the gender, you can choose the age, not to mention you are giving an innocent child a much better life and a brighter future. Just a thought.
2007-05-30 13:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by alohayall24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready, wait. Lose all the weight you can BEFORE you have another one. It is YOUR body, not his that has to go through it all again.
It's actually healthier if you want AT LEAST a year to 18 months after your first one before trying for number 2.
You're not being selfish - it's your decision ultimately.
2007-05-30 14:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are a lot of exercises classes you can take while pregnant, water aerobics for pregnant woman, walking, yoga, but i don't think it will take you long to loose the rest of the weight , and you are only talking about a couple of months, it might take that long if not longer to conceive,
2007-05-30 14:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In one word YES! What a lovely image for you - your first son growing up to know that after you had him and what he did to your figure made you decide to not concieve more children naturally. Won't hurt/disturb/have an effect on him at all!
2007-05-30 14:02:42 · answer #8 · answered by angelrose0105 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well i dont want any kids because i dont want to go through all of the drama and pain lol......so i dont think your being selfish at all in fact if your husband really knew wat it felt like to be pregnant im sure he wouldnt mind if you didnt want to have another baby :)
2007-05-30 14:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by tiffany m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait longer and ask a doctor if u want
2007-05-30 14:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋