We are a very happy family. my husband and I love each other. There is no abuse or inappropriate behavior and there is no hitting or yellling. I have 3 grown children from a previously marriage. My current husband and I have been married for 9 years. He has a very good relationship with my older kids.
My husband had never been married and has no other children so he thinks the sun rises and sets over our 6 year old.
My daughter is happy, intelligent, has lots of friends,gets along great at school, loves her older brothers and sister, who in turn love her, but every now and then she is just mean to her father. If he says " I love you", she says "I love mommy" or she ignores him. He will be going to work and she won't go to the door to say good by.
Normally she is crazy about him. He gives her plenty of attention but every now and then it seems like she does it just to be mean.
She can also be quite bossy.
Any ideas
2007-05-30 06:17:10 · 13 answers · asked by Busybake 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This seems pretty normal. Most children hang with mom for quite some time growing up. And since she is a little girl, she can relate to you more because your a girl. Give it time and soon she'll be daddy's little girl and you'll wonder what happened.
2007-05-30 07:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by Treasure 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never leave any stone unturned!! Since you are so close to your daughter than right now you need to sit down and have a talk with her and I think that is where you will get your answers!! It could very well be that when it is time for him to leave it upsets her and so she won't tell him good bye because she is angry that he is leaving!! There can be several reasons that she is acting this way and I say go to the source which is your 6 year old daughter and be understanding to whatever it is she tells you, don't just brush it off because she is just 6. whatever the reason, it is affecting your life and hers and your husbands so get to the bottom of this and there is no time like the present!!! Best of luck to you and your family!!!
Congrats on such a loving and wonderful family I pray there is just a minor issue here that can be handled with as little as a talk to explain to her whatever it is that is bothering her!! You sound like a great mom and I have faith you will handle this matter like the great mother you are!
2007-05-30 06:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by sash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like what my 3 year olds been doing lately except its to mommy I think its a stage. She is a big mommies girl usually but the last 2 weeks everything is about Daddy instead of mommy the roles have reversed. I wouldnt worry about it to much and if she knows its bothering your husband she may be doing it to get even more attention that way. But it sure does stink when they do the trade off.
2007-05-30 06:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by daisey232003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she spends so much time with the older children they may talk about there father a lot and the younger child may feel excluded. The younger child wants to be like her older siblings, she will distance herself from the father to try to fit in. She may not even know what she's doing
2007-05-30 06:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she has a right to know. Just tell her that he has gone up to Heaven. My sister-in-law died and left behind a 10 & 7 year old. They were both told and attended the funeral. They were much more adaptable that the adults. Her mom should tell her. If not possible then another close family member could do it. Like maybe her grandma. Keeping the info from her could cause serious trust issues later in her life.
2016-04-01 05:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He and you should just ignore the behavior. She's could be doing it for whatever reason at that age. It means nothing. Paying attention to it or reacting to it could end up enforcing the behavior. Since she's seeing that she's causing a reaction from you. If she's not getting anything out of the behavior, it will eventually stop.
2007-05-30 06:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats so crazy I wouldnt be able to think why she would do that accept for she appreciates you more because she spends alot of time with you. Maybe she heard something bad about her father. I can't even think what to tell you. Try sitting down and asking her why she is so mean to her father. Maybe she likes the attention she gets from doing it.
2007-05-30 06:26:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is her way of acting out when she do sent get her way...even if its a day or two latter. Do it back to her, like forget to give her a hug goodnight, and if she pouts or asks why, calmly say something like" I thought you didn't want hugs from daddy anymore, you didn't want one this morning" It is important that she knows you are doing this in reaction to her actions. What she wants is you to be sad or hurt to punish you for not letting her get her way.... She probably does this with daddy more because daddy is less likely not to give her what she wants and "spoils" her more. Don't show that you are upset though or she wins.
2007-05-30 06:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by becca457 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs to spend time alone with her and try to remember that HE is the adult. Some times tuff love has to come into play. Once she is not rewarded by getting her way after being mean for no reason she will see that it's not cute and no longer acceptable. and the older she gets the harder it will be and you don't want that.
2007-05-30 06:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by cotton candy1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So start daddy and me day. Take twiquando, or some form of class together just the two of them. i find this odd also, maybe ask someone whos been around, what have they noticed, also ask older sibs to ask her her open questions about dad.
2007-05-30 06:24:56 · answer #10 · answered by kim 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋