At the BMX track. I was in the van watching my daughter go around on her brand new bike. 6 teenage boys were a few feet away in the skateboard area, and the one went on the track with my daughter and did some jumps. My daughter came to the van and started to cry. She was riding along and one of the teeangers said "BOO". She was very upset and self concious as it is her first big bike with 5 speeds! I got out and was very angry. I told the kids off and that it is a public park and that little kids need to learn to and that it NOT appropriate and they need to show respect. I was VERY angry. What would you have done?
2007-05-30 06:16:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Exactly what you did. They needed to be told off that their behavior was unacceptable. That's pretty much all you can do.
I sure hope my kids grow to be better behaved than the teenagers I see in the park. If I catch any of them acting like that, there'll be hell to pay.
It'd sure be nice if older kids would try to set a better example for little kids.
2007-05-30 06:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by KC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know, that teenager may not have even been trying to be scary. When I was 6, I remember some older kids had cornered me and were interrogating me like I was a POW. At least that's what I thought. I ran screaming into school. Upon reflection, it was most likely just some nice sixth-graders who were asking me if I had any sisters and how old I was. That teenager may just have come up from behind your daughter and when she turned to him startled, he just said Boo, not thinking she was anything other than a little startled. You cannot and your daughter cannot control how much respect or consideration someone else will show her. Your best bet would be to teach your daughter good coping skills and how to ignore the freaks, weirdos and wackjobs of life. Tell her to see it from a different perspective and while he may have yelled Boo, he wasn't trying to hurt her or anything so she should take heart and get back out there. If he yells again, tell him to "Buzz Off!" or something. She can handle it if someone is rude to her, help her learn the confidence and self-respect to blow jerks off.
2007-05-30 06:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by Momofthreeboys 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All they did was say 'Boo' one time?
It's understandable that your child felt bad about that. Sounds like she's self-concious & sensitive. Depending on his state of mind at the time, my 7yo son might have started crying about that, too.
But, it wasn't really all that bad of a thing for the teenagers to have done. Stupid. Maybe a bit insensitive, but they had no way of knowing how sensitive your child is/was at the time or that something so simple would be so upsetting to her. Some kids that same age would have laughed at the same thing & loved the attention from the big kids. My 5-yo daughter probably would.
At the most, I might have gone over & talked to the teenagers, let them know that she was OK, but that they just surprised her/embarrassed her. Maybe remind them that little kids and all people, really, can be sensitive & that it's best to make sure someone's OK with it, before you start goofing around with them like that.
2007-05-30 06:28:06 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 18:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, it's a public park and does not belong to your little girl only. What they said wasn't nice, but that's the nature of teenagers, you don't have to get all "tough guy" about it and you can't shelter your little girl from jerks forever. Maybe if she gets it in her head that teenage boys are jerks now, she'll feel the same way when she's a teenager too...when you REALLY want them to leave her alone;)
2007-05-30 08:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by artsyfartsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have done the same thing.... and I hate to sound like a repeat of everyone else on here... but you really did handle it the best way! You showed your anger, but never got belligerent and ***thank goodness*** got back to Parenting Basics 101 where parents not only parent their own, but also keep the community's children in line! Nowadays people are too scared to discipline other people's children (and yes, teenagers are children!).... but it needs to be done sometimes! I commend you on speaking up!!! Kudos!
2007-05-30 06:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by Dawn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally I find it wrong to intervene when there is a dispute between my daughter and other kids, unless there is an absolute necessity (danger for serious injury). Relations between people can be sophisticated and complicated and I will not be around throughout her life to help her. So she really must learn how to react (or not to react- like in the situation described) on her own.
2007-05-30 07:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by katerina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they were probably just playing with her saying BOO is not putting her down now id they had said something like you suck get off the track id prolly be pissed but BOO come on now they are just kids too i think maybe you were being a little insensitive to those boys
2007-05-30 06:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by Brutal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have done the same thing! I would explain to your little girl that there are kids out there who are not always nice. That there behavior is not the way to behave.
2007-05-30 06:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have said "listen here skater boy, she is six years old not 16, you could have scared her off of her bike, watch out for little kids!!"
2007-05-30 06:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by ~Kim~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋