she has a habit of ignoring wnat i say and simply harassing me until i give in
2007-05-30 06:07:21 · 7 answers · asked by Alan W 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
As any child is, it is the cause and effect of your behavior. I would suggest asking yourself what you've said or how you've acted in the past that would give her the notion that she can act these ways and go from there. It sounds like she needs to learn that when you make a decision she needn't question and that's the final word. When you do make a decision it sounds like you need to stick to it no matter what she says, bcuz she's learned that if she persists enough and tries different ways that she'll eventually get what she wants. So in the end she manipulates you until she has her desired outcome whether it be through asking more nicely or throwing a fit. She ignores you becuase she knows she's hearing something she doesn't want so she discounts it and moves on to pursuing it a different way and ignores everything she doesn't want to hear until she finally hears "yes". These behaviors can quickly kick your butt from an adolescent and she could find herself caught up in a bad situation that she doesn't think is bad and you know it's bad, but of course she ignores you until you say "ok, whatever you want".
2007-05-30 06:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe ask for her attention, sit or stand face to face, make the request, if she interrupts while your talking, change your tone of voice so she knows you mean business and dont back down your final answer, if you persist as much as she is harassing you, she will give up and get used to it. Your word should be final. Another idea, is the reward system, if its not an expensive request she will have to work towards it with her behaviour, if its just to go out to play when you have said no, threaten her with going to her room for the rest of the day/evening if she keeps on. Hope something helps!!
2007-05-30 06:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by christine m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question, you give in. My daughter could talk till she's blue in the face, but I won't give in. Plus if she keeps asking after I say no then she loses privileges. She doesn't want to lose the ds, phone, tv etc. You have to be firm and consistent or the kid will think your a joke and a push over.
2007-05-30 06:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by Daybreak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is you're giving in. She knows that you will. Thus, the only answer is stop giving in. If she keeps it up, punish her accordingly. Take away her TV time or put her in time out. Don't give her so much freedom, it's your daughter not the other way around.
2007-05-30 06:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by nix_wolfwood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out first who is in charge you or her ? and the next time she disrupts the household ,disrupt her life and take everything out of her room and tell her this is how prisoners live and if you want to continue to act like a criminal this is how they are treated . take the phone ,tv,stereo everything is out of there . be firm and learn to tell her no .
2007-05-30 06:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is the problem, you give in. she runs the house and she knows it, take it back
2007-05-30 06:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by skcs11 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A FEW GOOD HEALTHY SWAT WITH A BELT ON HER BACKSIDE SHOULD HELP A WHOLE LOTS.
2007-06-01 16:22:47 · answer #7 · answered by SPARKY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋