this morning i clearly i told him i had class at 10 o'clock (not unusual since i been in class since april 30). anyways he said ok while i am in the tub he leaves at 9:40 to drop one of his friends off. so i left and walked. then he shows up when i am about 5 minutes away offering me a ride. i did not get in i just walked.
this is not the first time he did this. did i over react? was i wrong? explain your reasoning please.
thank you.
2007-05-30 05:27:47 · 14 answers · asked by Blessed and Happy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was clearly in the wrong. You told him what time your class was, and he just left, apparently not even letting you know he was leaving, and putting a friend before you and your needs. It is called respect, and you mentioned that he has done this before. He needs to get his priorities straight I would say. I would talk to him about this. Also, I would not ask him for a ride anymore. I would walk or get a ride with a friend, then he will see that you are independent and that you can take care of yourself. He should have thought about this in the first place, and maybe you should think twice about marrying this man. Remember, people do not change, you cannot change people, they are who they are. If you can not live with this kind of behavior, then it probably will not work out in the long run. If you really love this man, like I said, talk and work this stuff out before you get married. Good Luck.
2007-05-30 05:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by Only In Dreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't necessarily think you're wrong. Getting in the car might have just resulted in a shouting match & continuing to walk allowed you to think. But you must talk to him about why you were upset. He's not going to ever understand if you don't. Calmly, tell him something like, "When you disregard what I just told you, I feel frustrated because you're either not listening or you think my requests are not important." This should at least open a dialogue so that he can also share his motives.
2007-05-30 12:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by yowza 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U said u told him u had a class at 10, but did u tell him u need a ride, or is that something that is agreed b4..?
Maybe he's just not very responsible, and u need 2 talk about ur expectations...
2007-05-30 12:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by mallika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thought that he would have enough time to do both.
He obviously knew that your school was a short distance as well and if you walked in the past that it surely wasn't something new to you.
Honestly men are dumb, no offense, but they don't look as deeply into situations as we do.
It really isn't worth something to fight about. Honey pick and choose your battles!
2007-05-30 12:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by pattiof 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can think about it 2 ways. Yes, you over-reacted because you felt that he should have given you a ride or yes, you over-reacted but also saved him on gas by not getting in. It all depends on your perspective. Good times!!!
2007-05-30 12:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that all women, including myself, are sensitive to the little things. To you, he didn't take you into consideration at all just leaving you to walk to school. Jerk. However, men are just so stupid. They live in a totally different world from us. Try and explain how you feel, but I don't think that you overreacted. Good luck to you!!
2007-05-30 12:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by flowerbug26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel he was spying on you? Or was he perhaps trying to surprise you and spend a few minutes with you before class? And if you do feel he was spying on you, is it the first time? You didn't give much info to base a good answer on...Why were you pissed off, whats happened in the past that would piss you off about him showing up to offer you a ride?
2007-05-30 12:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by Innisfil g 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No you didn't, he should be more respectful of you. He clearly chose to accomadate his friends over you. He was wrong for that and how are you supposed to share a life together if he puts you second?
2007-05-30 12:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be his priority not his friends. You didn't over react. Him doing this is disrespectful and if it doesn't stop it will only get worse.
2007-05-30 12:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually u r not wrong the situation is wrong n the biggest point is he is testing u if u like him by heart genuinly den ignore all this or find a good partner for u u love
2007-05-30 12:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by GAY hot 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋