My new roommate is a beautiful and intelligent woman, with a great job and a great personality. Everything I've learned so far makes me think we're very compatible. We are sharing a house, just the 2 of us. We also both just got out of long relationships (hers more recently). Do I let her know I like her or play it cool since I have to live with her?
2007-05-30 05:19:13 · 8 answers · asked by TheEconomist 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would play it cool and let her heal. It will be extremely hard on your relationship unless you date from separate homes. If she shows interest, either of you would most likely need to move to continue a healthy relationship. In my opinion it would be better to let her heal from her recent break-up, become her true friend. Be there for her when she needs you and do your best to not take advantage of the situation. We are guys, we are hunters by nature, I know it is hard to say no when there is vulnerablitiy. If you can do this...and let her see how good of a friend you could be, it will most likely show her you are a good person to trust her heart to.
Also, take this time to really get to know her....go spend more time with her....she is a NEW roomate and you really have yet to see her in a "Bad" mood I am guessing. Remember the old addage? "No matter how sexy and beautiful she is...out there somewhere is a guy who was tired of her !@#$."
2007-05-30 05:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by Bahama121 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long you've been roommates.If its just a few weeks so far then its just infatuation.But if shes been there for a year,then you may actually have deep feelings for her.Sometimes these things work out sometimes they dont.If you start out just friends,she might eventually start to have some of the same feelings for you.Be her go to guy.Listen to all of her problems.Just be yourself around her.Dont come on too strong or stay too far away.She might be looking for something more.
I had a roommate a few years ago that I did all of that for and now it's permanent.After a few months we started sleeping together,then we just went to Vegas and got married.
She wasnt the first roommate I had that I slept with,but she will be the last.
2007-05-30 05:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by john s 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's tough to ignore one's feelings. If your feelings for this woman are sufficiently strong, it'd be unhealthy to not act on them.
In the end, this girl COULD be something special for you. However, relationships with roommates are high-risk and can be highly stressful. You will see this woman constantly, which will afford you very little emotional space. Also, should the relationship not work out you might be looking at finding a new living situation.
2007-05-30 05:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Play it cool for a while. After all she just got out of a relationship. That doesn't mean not to treat her special. She may give you some indication that she is interested too. Go out to eat, or cook her a special meal. Go out for a walk and talk to each other. Anything is possible.
2007-05-30 05:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should play it cool. If something is going to happen you will both know about it. It will just happen. If you reveal your feelings and she's not interested, one of you will have to leave the house because the tension will be unbearable.
2007-05-30 05:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by 2kool4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep talking to her and invite her places to eat and hang out. If she's interested in you, you should probably be able to get some indication from doing those things. Have a nice day!
2007-05-30 05:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
play it cool for now, but then once you guys get comfortable you can see if it will work out.
2007-05-30 05:23:58 · answer #7 · answered by that girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont see anything wrong you are both adult why not give your self a chance, go ahead and Good luck
2007-05-30 06:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by RED ROSE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋