I could use some advice...?

Question

I'm starting my summer classes at college this friday and I'm hoping for the opportunity to befriend a pretty girl or two in hopes of taking her out and trying to seriously find a girlfriend. So I guess my question is how should I go about doing this? I want to talk to a pretty girl without drawing alot of attention to myself. Please give some advice.

Girls: How would you want a guy you barely knew or had never seen before to approach you in a collegiate setting such as the one described?

Guys: How would you go about doing what it is I want to do?

Answer 1

your not by any chance going to A&M would ya? cuz I could totaly use a genuinly nice guy right about now. But to your question. I would probably be most comfortable making small talk in the first days. Making me your lab partner would be nice. We would spend time together and I could get to know you as a person, and for who you are. I have to be comfortable with someone before I date them. Sit next to me in class and just chit chat about the professor or what we did last night and what not. Soon I'd be fine with going and doing like a group hang out with some of your friends. I like to know a guys friends. You learn alot about them by seeing how they interact with there buddies and how they interact with you. Coffee or Ice cream later on always puts a good end to an evening or creates the beggining of a very hyper morning! I also really like to talk on aim. asking randomly stupid questions. she might like that as well. with different woman things will progress differenlty. if she is shy and reserved then things will move slower and naturally. you will have to practice patience. if she's a dater, then things will go more quickly. both of those go without saying. Don't press, just go with the flow.

Answer 2

First off... don't say "pretty girl". How old are we here? She will have a name (hopefully) and its very important to her that you get her name and remember it... And there's no need to be shallow either, lol.

Realize before anything that you dont need to think of yourself lower than the girl you want to talk to. Be confident, because a girl can spot those insecurities a mile away and you will just make things uncomfortable. Be cool with yourself!

Make sure you dress nice. She won't want you even talking to her if you look like you just got back from a Lynard Skynard concert with your muddin buddies... Just remember the basics of what your mommy taught you. Keep your hair neat and BRUSH YO TEETH!

But when you actually approach her, like I said earlier, be confident. Hold your head high, chest up, and look her in the eye. Let her know that you are there and important.

When your talk to her, just think of something direct about your surroundings you two can talk about. Say something funny about the college or something interesting about the teacher or your ride over there. Be calm and don't stutter. Really, just approach her like a friend and dont create pressure. Remember to keep that eye contact and its also important that you smile to let her know you are sincere and a nice person.

After you spark up a conversation, things will naturally get more comfortable. Then when the time is right you can ask if she wants to do something out of school hours. Just make things as natural as possible.

Just be yourself! Nothing can be more important than being confident about your life! So even when it doesnt go as planned your cool with yourself to let it go and say "bring on some more!"

Hope this helps. Best of luck with finding that right "pretty girl" to talk to! LOL have fun dude!!

Answer 3

There really is no set or no fail system or approach out there that I know of. If you are to focused on finding a girlfriend some girls can pick up on that and get turned off. Try enrolling in some house keeping, cooking or sewing type classes. Try making other friends, male or female, and get into a social circle. Hopefully it may lead to parties or other opportunities to meet someone.

Answer 4

Just concentrate on doing well in the class first. Chances are the gals in the class you are taking are interested in doing well, I mean they are spending their summer in class when they could be out doing other things. There must be a reason why they are there, other than to meet men. Trust me when I say if you do well and it is obvious if you are, women will take notice of you. It is easy to strike up a conversation when people notice you. Keep it light, stay focused on your studies, for the most part women like driven and determined men and you can show these things by doing well in the class. Make yourself available for study groups and make them work, as in everyone leaves with a feeling of something getting accomplished and not just a waste of time. If you live on your own make your place available and have people pitch for pizza and drinks. Maybe afterwards invite her out for coffee, coctails? maybe (play it by ear)... Just my idea. Good luck and keep your eye on the brass ring. Be open to the idea of finding someone great, but don't force yourself into it if there isnt anyone you click with.

Answer 5

If I were you I would form a study group . Any girl that you like you could invite her to study with you and there you get to know them better and do well in your class. After a while you will just end up hanging out and studying after a while you will become friends.

From there you could find a girlfriend that likes the same subject as you or maybe she could be the one that can help you understand the class better.

Good Luck!

Answer 6

its easier then you think....one rule: be yourself

girls can easily tell when guys are being fake unless you are emotionally shallow and want a girl who is just all looks...since you are looking for a gf ill take that as a no

but its ok to have standards and you would like to meet someone who is also nice to look at

class is a good place to start a relationship...remember girls are thinking the same thing as you...they are looking just as much as guys are...so be outgoing and show everyone not just girls (cause girls like guys who has friends and can get along with anyone) who you really are

oh yeah one more thing...dont go in thinking that "i have to find a gf"...dating will come when you arent trying as hard trust me

Answer 7

First, I would stop saying "pretty girl" because it's kind of superficial. Secondly, the best way to befriend someone at school is to sit near them and get to know them as the semester progresses.

Answer 8

Hey I am biggest Packers fan since 1971 smiling... since my great grandma and grandpa that live in Rice Lake back then...

Umm, you really need to be yourself and do what you need to do.. Seems that you scared that you might mess up and look bad to yourself.. really we all learn everyday and we do what best for us.. smiling.. I am sure that you really learn so much when you in high school??? did you ever had girlfriend in HIGH SCHOOL? smling if yes then you should know what to do.. but if not oh dear.. just be who you are for girl to know you and like you if not then she not the right person. smiling.

Answer 9

I think it would b best if u ask something connected 2 the classes or materials... That should b a good reason for starting a friendship, and than.... ;)

Answer 10

Well, if a guy just walked up and said hello and told me his name, I'd really respect him. We could just talk on a normal basis and be friends before anything serious were to come of it.