I'm trying to work on myself more this summer and any tips on how I can get boys to notice me next year?

Question

Next year, I'm going to be a sophmore. It's been kind of rough the past few years, being teased because of my weight. This summer, I'm trying to shed a few pounds, but I'm not doing it for other people, I'm doing it for myself. The main reason boys don't notice me is because of my weight. I know there somebody out there with my name on it, but why is it taking to long? Or maybe I'm just too young to be worrying about getting a boyfriend.

Answer 1

I suggest being more stylish. I was in the same situtaion as you were two years ago, except I was not teased for it. Keep working out, it's always good to have a healthy body. I also did something in the morning every day, I would look in the mirror and find someting that I liked about myself. It does not always have to be the body it can be your eyes, hair, nose, body etc. Or just particular part of your body. That is a good way to build confidence. Now as far as clothing be yourself, just through away anything that is baggy or just does not flatter your body. At the end of the summer figure out what is your best assets and then shop for clothing that will accentuate those assets, while still being yourself. Hope this helps! Good luck!!

Answer 2

I had a kick *** body when I was a sophmore and guys still didnt notice me. Your confidence is what they will notice. Thats why the "popular" girls that get noticed get the guys. Notice how outgoing and confident they are. I dont think you're too young to want a boyfriend, if you were my daughter I would let you have one at 15-16.

But if you want to lose weight get up in the morning and power walk/jog for 30 minutes before you eat anything as your body will burn stored fat first. This works for us old-timers who have slower metabolism than you (Im 29) Good luck sweetie!

Answer 3

Buy the book "The Rules" and memorize it. Yes work on your fitness but also work on your personal gifts and interests.

This is harder than it seems (at least it was for me). One thing that helped my find my passion was to catch myself laughing. What was I laughing about? Or what made me say "wow"??

I'm sharing thins because I never had trouble getting boys but had tons of trouble finding a boy that wanted to stay with me, loved me, liked me. This is worse I think then not having a boyfriend at all, because I was always going through breakups which were very painful for me and I was left feeling used.

Once I read and applied "the rules", the change was immediate. Any guy I accepted a date with seemed to like me a ton, had to be with me, loved me (i know because they told me so over n over). The change was that I put myself first. Got wrapped up in my interests and know what I discovered?? The more busy I got with my life, college, fitness activities, friends..the more boys found meee. The change was night and day. Before I was chasing boys, after they were chasing me. And boys need to chase, or at lease ask u out. Take that away from them and it just doesn't work.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Losing weight is a good idea for improving your health.

If you want to have a friend, you need to be a friend. Work on improving the internal you. Find topics to discuss with people. Show an interest in what they are interested in and listen. Don't listen as if you can't wait to comment about what they are saying. Listen as if you were going to take a test in the material the next day.

Be clean and tidy and don't advertise your wares. You'll find someone who likes the whole you, not just your body parts.

Answer 5

Be careful when you diet. It's best if you work out some - it'll make you heavier, but it'll cut fat and your muscles will burn more calories. If you get hungry, try to eat fruits and veggies, not just fat-free and sugar-free stuff. Successful dieting is a balance - if you -have- to have that chocolate, eat it and get back on track afterward, don't just go through the rest of the candy aisle.

And trust me, when you feel good about yourself, a guy'll notice. Just make sure he's not loving you for your body only, mmkay?

Answer 6

look up ab exercises on the cyber web and do them a minimum of three times each and every week. additionally, choose for brisk walks and as quickly as you get used to brisk strolling, graduate to strolling and then complete working. it somewhat is a mild technique, so do no longer rush into it. Do crunches and situps religiously! in case you do all of it appropriate, you would be a splash sore, yet this is a solid element!! you additionally can drink eco-friendly tea. this is declared to speed up your metabolism! Ask your mom to initiate donning quite mild eye shadow and perchance a splash mascara or cover-up in case you desire it. 13 is the age interior my team of my pals that truthfully everyone began donning a splash makeup. do no longer pass overboard with it! pass on YouTube and watch some makeup tutorials for youthful childrens. solid success! ^o^

Answer 7

It isn't your weight. No matter how big you are dress classy. I am a little heavier than I should be, but I dress classy and I do get noticed....actually more than most skinny girls. Guys like curves as long as there aren't too many. Dress to impress.

Answer 8

I wouldn't be overly concerned with having a boyfriend in high school. The reason for this suggestion is that only about two percent of high school sweethearts who marry end up having a fifty year marriage.

May I suggest that the first question to ask yourself when considering whether or not to date someone is, “Is this person a strong person?” If they’re not, no matter how much you like them, how much they like you, or how “cute” or “hot” they are, - please don’t date them. A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), displays a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), gives their best effort, and demonstrates self-control (of their body, anger, tongue and money). A strong person isn't overly concerned with what weak people say, do, or think.

My suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already) and eventually look for this type of guy (otherwise you are setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of man is difficult to find – but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.

(Please remember that you eventually want a 50 or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)

Hope this helps!

PS The best way to get to know a strong man without dating is to participate in the activities of a community service organization, a school organization, or a religious organization.

PPS Here are "21 tips that could help you to attract a strong person" from the book True Love Lasts:

1. Take the time and put in the effort to become a strong person yourself (this is the most important tip)

2. Put yourself in as many situations as possible that will allow you to potentially come in contact with other strong people - community service organizations, the library, high school or college clubs, the “Y” or other workout facilities, religious book studies, coffee shops, non-alcoholic parties, bookstores, concerts (wear a good pair of earplugs to protect your ears from permanent hearing loss), co-ed recreational athletic teams, community service projects, mission trips, volunteer service, etc. Try to get to know other people as much as possible without dating

3. Be cheerful, approachable, and friendly - smile regularly to put others at ease (let people see your positive attitude)

4. Take a real interest in getting to know others. Ask people an open-ended question about themselves in order to get them talking. Share things related to what’s been said as needed to keep the conversation going. Then ask them another question

5. Be polite and kind to everyone - even to people who you don’t like or enjoy being around

6. If you decide to not accept a request for a date, do it in a kind way (being rude isn’t a good choice and it doesn’t help you - word about it will get out and you’ll become less approachable)

7. Be confident about yourself - if you’re trying to become a stronger person each day, you already have a lot going for you

8. Be humble - don’t act like you’re Miss Charming or you’re Mr. Wonderful

9. Don’t be concerned about whether or not someone likes you

10. Have the attitude that if someone doesn’t like you - they don’t really know you

11. Take care of yourself by getting enough sleep (at least nine hours for teens, at least seven hours for adults according to the experts), exercising regularly (if approved by your doctor), and eating a healthy diet

12. Develop a good sense of humor - including the ability to laugh at your own mistakes

13. Be known as a hard worker

14. Dress well and dress modestly at the same time (wearing seductive clothing doesn’t attract another strong person)

15. Pay attention to your appearance, but don’t obsess over it (remember that strong people are attracted to other strong people, they’re not too concerned about looks - because they realize that looks fade with age). If you use makeup, make sure it’s not excessive. Use perfumes and colognes sparingly - if at all

16. Truly care about other people

17. Stay in close communication with real friends who can help you through the ups and downs of life and hold you accountable

18. Be patient - real friends can help you with this

19. Persevere - please remember that almost nothing worthwhile is quick and easy. Please don’t settle for dating a weak person

20. Don’t take it personally if someone doesn’t want to date you

21. Don’t act desperate for a date

Answer 9

Heavy girls have fun too... There's nothing worse than a skinny, bony woman crawling all over you.

Answer 10

if you are shedding weight for you, then why are you concerned what others think. just be yourself....