I need to break up with my boyfriend. It's just not working out. I've played it out in my head and I'm afraid he is going to ask why. Other than it's just not working out, I don't want to hurt his feelings and tell him really why. Some real reasons are: He is way toooo quiet and I'm bored. His facial expressions bother me, when he smokes and drinks, he stinks, and he has no ambition. Probably nobody can help me, but it feels better to get it out.
2007-05-30 04:45:41 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just because he asks why, doesn't mean you need to tell him. Fact is most men don't really want to know why even when they do ask. Just tell him it's not working out and it's over. If he asks why, tell him you don't want to talk about it (after all you really don't have too). If he keep after you, just say you are interested in someone else...that works every time.
2007-05-30 04:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what his feelings are going to be hurt. If you are too easy on him you may give him the impression that he can win you back or something can be changed to make it better.
You don't really owe him an explanation for breaking up with him. If you're unhappy with the relationship then it's best for the both of you that it's terminated -- So you can both move on.
If you really feel that you need to explain to him then you just need to tell him the truth. Don't sugar coat it. If you're worried about him overreacting or doing something drastic then do it in a public place.
It's going to be hard no matter what you do. If breaking up were easy and painless, there would be a lot of happy people. :( Good luck and don't cave in.
2007-05-30 11:56:04 · answer #2 · answered by Starr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's hard to face the facts; but, you have to find the courage to let him down easy. Maybe he would be boring if you all had something to talk about. Try to find out what he likes and if you really like him you can make him talk. Sometimes couples need to be open about things , try to explore what he likes. Every one that drinks and smokes stink. Buy him some gum or something. I think that you are trying to find excuses to get rid of him. Look if you really don't want him around then ditch him.
2007-05-30 11:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by yopude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pointing out his lack of ambition might hurt him but it could also motivate him, and focusing a lot of attention on that fact could make up breaking up with him a little easier in the sense that you won't have to address any of the other details you mentioned. i once dated a guy who was content to be a video store clerk living with his parents, never going anywhere or doing anything new for the rest of his life; i also had a long list of reasons and the desire to not crush him. his want to stand still and mine to wander was a big enough issue for me it was my main reason for breaking up with him and is what i told him.
2007-05-30 12:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by cosmicreverie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to say that exactly. If he asks why, just say that you dont think that it will work out. Tell him you are not in the same places in life and you do not seem to be really compatible together.
You do not have to explain any further, its just not what you want right now.
2007-05-30 11:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the reasons why. You will probably never be friends with him again, but then a lot of relationships end this way.
2007-05-30 11:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him how you feel, but what ever you do, don't tell him he has bad hygiene.Sometimes you have you be honest with them even though you may think that it will hurt his feelings. What you could say is "I am sorry, but there things you do that I am not comfortable with and I am not going to change my lifestyle to accommodate your habits so it is not going to work out.
2007-05-30 12:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sharon R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him a text message: It's over...Move on....I know it's harsh but, It get's the job done. After you send it, call the cell phone company and tell them someone keeps trying to send faxes to your phone and this has been going on for a month...They should change the number for free if you tell them that...Good Luck
2007-05-30 11:51:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jypcee 5000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him down gently. By the way, you really dont HAVE to give a reason. Just say, it is not working out. We are at different places in our lives...I dont think we are compatable. I am not happy anymore...etc....Just blow off answers will work.
2007-05-30 11:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by bellesnail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, but you might want to leave out the stink part.
2007-05-30 11:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋