Is it bad for you to feel "numb" (in your feelings)? Ive been hurt (emotionally) so many times that I don't care if guys cheat on me. And I just really dont care anymore. Is that bad? How can I change it
2007-05-30 04:34:29 · 30 answers · asked by I need him ♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Normally I would answer something like this with a caddy remark, but I believe you are reaching out for help so I won't. YES, IT IS BAD !!!!!
You need to seek professional counseling. Your numb feelings are probably the onset of depression. Don't ignore the signs. You have already started the curing process by reaching out for help. Keep reaching and do it the right way. Besides counseling, find someone willing to talk to you and truly be a friend.
2007-05-30 04:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that!...
I guess this is why God tells us to GUARD our Hearts...
It's not suppose to be this way...I don't want to sound rude but,
You shouldn't have given "it" away so many times! It is suppose to be reserved for someone special that will treat you like a queen not a concubine...
I think you need to chill and say good-bye to the person
who your with now! The person who last cheated on you!
Then take some time to discover who you really are and what your true feelings are....
You can love again, but unless you take a break, you'll lose it foreva!
If you want to find the meaning of real love, you should come to the Lord, your creator, Jesus Christ...
I don't care if it's not popular, give me all the thumbs down you want people! When you are born, the Lord's Spirit is inside of you, too! It's along life's way, when we ignore HIM so much, HE can't live inside anymore!!!!....This is why we are born with the inherent feeling of knowing right from wrong. It's a gift that he has given you....You've lost that when it comes to "picking the right person to love."
We can't pick our birthdate, and we can't pick the day we die but we can choose what we do with the "DASH" in between!...
...Don't let the world destroy you or anyone take your peace away.....think about it, and Happy Day ~ This was the right step to take...IT'S TIME TO GET REAL!
2007-05-30 11:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by Call me-C-4-Curious- 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one, it is bad that people out there have treat you so badly that you have come to the point of not caring, i think you have just hit an emotional wall, the only way i see you getting out of the present situation of not caring is to find someone that really cares for you and treats you well, going numb is just your minds way of protecting you from more emotional torment, people can only take so much, maybe now after all you have been through you have feelings of worthlessness, and an attitude of oh well i dont care if they do it to me again, but really you need to get yourself out of this rut as hard for you as that may be, your worth more than that, dont let these pigs win, your better than they are just remember that, you'll get through this.
2007-05-30 11:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly01_2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from experience, me being the same way.... Yes it is bad. I do the same thing and I have come to realize that its going to just keep repeating the cycle of bad guys if it continues. If you allow guys to cheat on you then thats the only guys you will get, and you will get hurt again and close yourself off even more. It will be a downward spiral. You should realize that you deserve to have a great guy, who respects you and would do anything for you.... dont settle for any less and dont stop til you find one. Not all guys will cheat and treat you like that. Hope this was somewhat helpful sweetie! Good Luck! :o)
2007-05-30 11:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by ~ Rachel B.~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can only be hurt emotionally, if you let someone do it to you. You and only you are in charge of your body and your mind and your heart. No one else. I am amazed that you have not been able to figure all of this out for yourself. Any 15 year old who is familiar with Moliere as you are, tells me that you are a very intelligent young lady. You should care if someone cheats on you. You are a person, with feelings, and if someone hurts your feelings, speak up, loud and clear. You need a good dose of confidence in yourself. I can't tell you how to get it, because everyone is different. Start with self respect! If you respect yourself, others will too.
2007-05-30 12:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by Alfie333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been there done that. I got to a point in my life that I felt like it didn't matter how good of a girl friend I was a guy would still cheat and treat me awful. That's when you have to start concentrating on yourself. Go get pampered and kick the guys to the curb for a little while. Make yourself first for a little while. You'll get more pride in yourself and plus, you'll get to hang out with your friends more. I promise you that there are still good guys in this world. There is someone out there who will never hurt you but as long as you're "numb" you'll never see that. Wishing you the best!!!
2007-05-30 11:40:12 · answer #6 · answered by **Angel** 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should feel "numb" to the point where you are looking at guys who cheat and giving them the finger and walking away without feeling bad about it. After so much "hurt" you need to be at the point where you don't put up with that s*** anymore! You need to learn from your pain and make it your strength.
2007-05-30 11:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by litlredm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe you do not care. I know from experience it is a wall. Walls are not built over night and yours will take many years perhaps to have anyone come close to you. This is not something that is wrong with you. Actually your mind is in protection mode. It happens when people go through different levels having strong emotional upset in their lives. It is not something to rush and do not let someone use it as a weapon to get what they want from you. Your emotions are telling you to allow time for yourself. Right now your the most important person and you are going to live with yourself for the rest of your life. Be there for yourself. This does not mean isolate yourself. You can have walls and that will be your space. Know one needs to go beyond that line now. You are in control. God Bless you little one.
2007-05-30 11:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by legermarianne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is really bad and my suggestionto you would be maybe you should just wait on someon new and get to know him and ask him the same questions you're asking now and see if he agrees or desagrees wit you and just hold off the boyfriends for awhile until you meet the right one and just remember if you do this you'll maybe have the guys cchasing you and not the other way around
2007-05-30 11:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by angel c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is bad because you are letting yourself get wlked over and used, guys think that you dont care how you get treted so then they dont care, just remember you are a good person who deserves the best in EVERY aspect in your life an no person should treat you like nothing because in the end thats what you start beleiving that you are nothing and im sure you are not. Head held high girly be proud you are worthwhile reme,ber!
2007-05-30 11:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by sWeeT aS A LEmoN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋