I'm starting to receive rsvp back from the invitations I sent out. Some of the people are writing nice notes on the back and including a check with it if they can't come. I'm not sure if we should wait to cash the check till after the wedding or do I cash it and send a thank you note now? Thanks for the help.
2007-05-30 04:21:51 · 17 answers · asked by tpurtygrl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would wait, but it depends on how long you are talking about. I don't like when people don't cash checks for over a month. What about depositing them into a savings account and not using the money until after the wedding. Isn't it bad luck to use the gifts before the wedding?
2007-05-30 04:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by Becca418 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would cash it now, I cant stand when people wait to cash my checks, it holds everything up.
I know what you are saying though, it does seem kind of weird in thought, but truly, I think everyone is giving you the money as a gift, and if you are getting rsvps back than I'm sure its not like the wedding is months away, it close, so I think you are ok. But send out those thank yous immediately.
2007-05-30 04:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should cash it now then put it into a savings acount until after the wedding. if you wait to cash it you might throw people off. usually when i right a check its because I have the money in th eaccount now. if you wait over a month to do it these people may forget or not have the money in there. I wouldnt spend it right away though which shouldnt be a problem. just pretend it isnt there until after the wedding. send the thank you notes out asap though.
2007-05-30 06:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cash the checks. They are gifts from the persons that can not attend. They most likely expect you to cash them and use the money to purchase items that you have not received from your registary list. I would send the Thank You notes at the same time as the others for the gifts that you have received. After the wedding.
BTW - Congrats!!
2007-05-30 04:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by Oberon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most gifts received before the wedding are meant to be opened beforehand. Go ahead and cash the checks and send a thank you note now.
2007-05-30 07:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cash it now and use the money for the wedding and/or stuff on your wedding list, then write to tell them what the money went on when you thank them - ie: "thank you so much for the $100, we've put it towards the flowers for the reception, they are going to look fantastic" .
That is what the people sending it are expecting you to do and it means they feel a part of helping your big day - they can even look out for the stuff they helped buy!!
2007-05-30 04:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by jake h 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The right etiquette is to wait. If something happens and the wedding doesn't take place, then you would have to return the money. I waited with all mine and sent the thank you notes AFTER the wedding.
2007-05-30 05:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cash it after the wedding. It's a wedding gift, so you have to hold onto it til then. Of course your wedding will go without a hitch, but the theory is that if you had a major family disaster and had to put it off, the gifts would all be returned.
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2007-05-30 04:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by Kacky 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The proper thing, whatever you decide to do with the money whether it is to open it now or later, is to thank them for their gift. They showed you how much they wish they could go, so it would be polite to send them the thank you note along with a picture of your wedding. =) Good luck, I know that you will do the right thing.
2007-05-30 04:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by Stefy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The check was given to you as a gift. You may cash it anytime you like. As for the thank you, I would send it as soon as possible to show your appreciation for their thoughtfullness. Have a wonderful wedding and much happiness to you both.
2007-05-30 04:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by jadeynoctobre@att.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋