Dilemma What Would You Do ?????

Question

hiya i went on a glamour model photoshoot doing just lingerie, topless and dressing up - which my boyfriend wasnt happy with but he is ok now - he told me i wasnt allowed to do any work though after the photoshoot !
well zoo magazine has sent me an email asking me if they can publish my photos in there first timers section and i really want to be in it !!!!
should i just let zoo put them in and not tell him as he dosnt buy the mag anyway ??
i no if i tell him he will go mad and wont let me do it !!
what would you do ?? as i really wanna be in it lol !!!

please help
thanxs xx

i am proud of my photos they look great !!! but he hates the fact that i want to get them published but i dont wanna loose him aswell but dont want to loose the opportunity to go in the mag !!

i have been seeing him for 2 years now and i have always wanted to do it but never had the opportunity to do it !! now i have but dont want to loose him aswell !

yeah he gets very jealous and gets scared incase i cheat on him etc. even though he is the only man i wanna be with and he is the only person that gets to touch me he still dosnt understand !

Answer 1

You are your own person and must do what you want. Nobody owns you. If you let your boyfriend dictate as to what he will or will not allow you to do, when will it stop ? It won't. It may well be the photo shoot this week, a shopping trip next week and so on. Tell him that you understand how he feels, but that it is your life and you cannot live your life through his ideas. You are a human being who can think and make judgements for yourself. You do not need a 'supervisor'.

Answer 2

Even if your boyfriend doesn't buy the magazine that wants to put your pictures in it someone he knows may. You always have to know that if you lie deliberately the person you are lying to finds out and is twice as mad because of 1) the lie and 2) the deception. I would say tell him ahead of time and deal with his anger but tell him that you really want it and it will be some cash for you. After all you aren't doing another photoshoot, just using photos already taken, right. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

He is only thinking about his insecurities here! But I am sure most men would not want their girl in a mag like Zoo for all to see! He has to realise that this is something you want to do and it is tastefully done these days, Zoo is not a porn mag, it is just a lads mag to lurch over! If it was me, and it would not be as I would not have the guts!, I would go ahead and do it anyway, and simply tell him that you love him and respect him but this is what you want to do, if he loves you he would understand, or at least try to! Congrats by the way! x

Answer 4

First of all, I'm surprised "Zoo Magazine" even asked your permission to use your pictures - 'cause they don't need it unless the glamour photo shoot was personal and not for public view. once you sign a release, Zoo Magazine or whoever can sell your pictures over and over and over again and aren't required to give you a DIME. Also those pictures will haunt you for the rest of your life. When you have kids, and your children's friends figure out how to navigate the net, just how proud are they going to be seeing your pictures plastered everywhere. Sure, do what you want to do but know that there will be repercussions. There always are. KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GETTING IN TO.

Answer 5

i would let zoo publish them (and good on you because obviously you are proud of them and its what you want) and i would TELL (not ask?!) him you've done it and why and ask that he respects your decision. I dont think anyone should be able to dictate what you can and cant do. If he has a serious problem with it then sit down with him and talk about why he feels that way, is it because he's jealous? is it because he's worried for you? and so on.. then show him he's the only man that gets to touch!.. if you know what i mean! Its a bit of harmless fun and you shouldnt let his insecurities get in the way.. publish them, talk about it with him, and enjoy them together!! best of luck! and well done!

Answer 6

It is your life and your choice to make. You very well may lose one or the other though, so be prepared for the consequences of your decision. If you don't respect your man's feelings, he could leave you - with good grounds. If you don't do the magazine, you may regret it. It is a personal choice of which one means more to you in the long run. Which one will be there for you in the future?

Answer 7

Well it depends on how much you think you love this person , but still thats' no reason for someone to limit your ambitions and dreams.

I believe you can come some sort of compromise. Maybe they can publish the pictures that are not so revealing, instead of the topless ones.

Hope it works out. good Luck

Answer 8

Well, as they've asked AFTER you've completed the shoot I'd be inclined to accept, but there is the danger your boyfriend may find out through mates etc. The thing is that if you accept, other offers for new work may come up and then what would you do?
How much do you think of your bloke? How would you feel about deceiving him. Ask yourself these questions before you go ahead.

Answer 9

Hi, look if you really love your boyfriend don'tdo it.Just imagine how he'll feel. If the role were change, he was the one to be published in the first timers.How will you feel?
When you love someone, one has to make sacrifice, for his sake don't betray his trust.Goo ahead tell him and maybe when he'll see you've tell him that you got that email,he may say yes to you.

Answer 10

He wont let you do it, how silly is that. He is not the boss of you so why are you letting his opinion shape your future.
You are doing what you love to do and you are proud of your pics so go for it babe, let them print your pics and let everyone know just how good you are at your job.
If he cant handle it then tell him to move on cause you ain't gonna stop living just cause he has insecurities.
Always do what you want to do babe!!
Good luck xxx