What can I do about my sister...?

Question

Okay so I've tried comfronting my parents about this but after you see the whole story you'll see why it wouldn't work.
Okay so my sister is 7, almost 8, and she is the biggest cry baby. If one of my parents yells at her she'll go crying to the other one. When she's around my parents she's a little angel and as soon as they leave she is a devil. She doesn't open the door to me when I knock and I was locked out for 2 hrs. until my mom got home. My parents baby her so much and they let her get away with anything. They say that I'm being a difficult teenager and that I need to be nicer to her, which isn't true because I'm 12. (This is my friend's account because she is 13)
She jumps around when she is walking in the mall and yesterday because of this she jumped on my toe and made it fall off. And she stained my new shirt because she threw pizza at it. And she cries about EVERYTHING!!! IS this just a phase or will this keep going on? What could I do to stop her?

I meant she made my toenail fall off...

Answer 1

I had the same problem - except it was my older sister.

They don't grow out of it. My sis is 50 years old and she still acts this way. Childish. Selfish. Petty. Pathetic.

When your parents demand that you watch Sis, have them post house rules plus the consequences for breaking the house rules in writing. Write down precisely what happens, what she did, how she behaved etc. Don't make any kind of threat (I"m telling MOm!") just write the facts - including dates and times. If things get really bad - like something unsafe or illegal - then call your parents to come home quickly or you will have no choice but to call the police to handle the situation. Show them the notebook when they get back. It will be up to them to enforce their rules.

Same thing with the mall. Establish a written set of rules and the consequences if the rules are broken. If she breaks the rules - call your parents to come and pick you up. It doesn't matter if Mom and Dad had other plans. If Sister is behaving badly in public, she is a danger to herself and to others.

If you have to call the police for a ride home - then do that too.

Bottom line: You shouldn't be the parent here - it's not your job.

Feel free to show this to your parents - maybe it will wake them up a little.

I feel for you

Answer 2

I know exactly what you mean! I am 15 and i have one younger sister who is 13. She still uses black against me as a method of getting whatever she wants. She will cry about anything and i also had an experience when i was locked out of the house because of her. She will listen on phone calls, dig her nails into my arm and tell my friends embarressing stories. Unfortunitly her maturity level has not caught up with her age yet.
I dont know if this is a stage or not and i hope that your sister grows up. I just want you to know that i know exactly where you are coming from.
Mom and dads perfect little angel and a devil the second they leave the room.


Good Luck

Answer 3

Well my sister was a pain for me too in the exact same way.
I did my best to stay away from her and when she started to miss me I said I will not hang out with you until you can stop this behavior.... so as long as you choose to do act this way, you can act like that alone ... I'm out.

I had my own room and I could lock the door. I don't know what kind of arrangement you have but I would do that if you can and if not, try to spend the nights at friends houses as much as you can this summer. If your parents ask why you don't want to be home, tell them because of this, I've told you before and you didn't do anything and so I had to try to seperate myself from the situation.

Answer 4

You can be mature about it and ignore the brat (no offense), or you can set her up so your parents see her true image.

Little sisters are always going to be bad. When I was younger, my sister threw a hard plastic action figure right at my face. Did she get punished? Nope... She got a little talk from my dad, and she was let go.

All I'm saying is, your parents are going to expect that from her... and they know she's not an angel. However, they would probably have her act like an angel than a devil around them. For now, you're not going to ger help from them. Ignore the little demon until she gets older (or be a real big sister, and pick on her).

Answer 5

You've got a problem, and it will not be better by itself. The reason for the trouble may be you, at least in part, but anyhow, you have to be a part of the solution. As your feel that your parents is taking her part, it can be difficult for you to solve the problem alone. Hence you must involve you parents, but that will not happen before you make them understand you are serious - which happen to be the opposite of childish.

So what to do?

Just avoid to have anything to do with her. If you are in the mall, stay at safe distance. If they ask you to be a babysitter, say no. When they ask why, just tell them you have a problem with your sister, and that has to be sorted out before you really start to hate her or risk doing something to her that you will regret.

If you say that is a mature way, they probably are ready to talk. They may not accept you description of the situation, and they may do what you want, but they will have to talk and help you to find solutions.

Answer 6

um yeah she sounds liek a total spoiled brat. i say talk to your parents privately and alone! tell them ur upset about the way she has been acting towards you, as a big sister you deserve and demand respect. It makes u feel like u both abide by different rules when she is reprimanded she is not held accountable for your actions. tell therm u just want them to initiate some more rules so you can form a bond and she will respect you more and so that you can be dependable when she needs you. if she keeps taking u for granted then you dont know how dependable u can be for her. i think u make a valid point when expressing how bratty she is behaving and disrespecting u by throwing pizza at you and locking u out of the house.

Answer 7

Well, if your parents are babying her and coming down on you as if you are too difficult because you do not agree with this little girl acting up as she is, it is only encouraging this behavior. Alot of times parents get more lax with the youngest sibling. How does she act toward them? She NEVER acts up with them when she is told "no"?? I would record what I could even to prove my point. She should not be locking you out of your home for 2 hours and she is sure old enough to not be throwing food! This is something that will continue I am afraid...I mean eventually she MAY grow out of it...but if she sees that she can get away with it I have seen some pretty deceitful young women and adults as well...Sorry for your troubles.

Answer 8

Well, I'd say you definitely have your hands full. I'm sure it's just a phase she's going through, but your parents babying her sure isn't helping the situation. Rather than confronting your parents, can't you just sit down with them and have a heart-to-heart talk? As far as what to do with your sister, are you being mean to her (just asking)? Have you tried being friends with her? Maybe she feels left out because you're older than she is...try doing something with just the two of you. Good luck.

Answer 9

i am thinking it is just a phase. But if your parents let it go too long than it will probably get worse. My sister is the same way only she is 12. [she has some weird mental stuff too] but it's mostly because my parents have let her get around all their rules. The kid learns how to manipulate the parents into getting whatever they want. Wether through pretended pain [as in my sister] or whining and crying as in yours. They are smarter than you think.

Answer 10

I really doubt your toe fell off becuase she jumped on it, My kids jump on my toe all the time and i still have them.
As far as your sister i would have your mom pretend to go out and ask her to observe your sister. Kids when they are that young tend to be horrible. Maybe when she gets a little older she will have more self control but your parents really do have to stop babying her... that is ridiculouse. But parents will be parents maybe you should set up a video camera somewhere they wont see and record her and then record there actions to her and show them how stupid they are.