What is the appropriate gift amount to spend for them....My dress with shoes & accessories is about $350.00, my sons's tux is $110, and my husbands is $160.00, plus hotel room for 2 nights, plus what I already spent for the shower ($60.00), and the shower gift ($50.00), can I get away with getting them a gift card for $50.00, with everything else that we're spending?
2007-05-30 03:04:15 · 13 answers · asked by J K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
$50 is very generous. I guess it depends on what part of the country you are in. I see people on here who think everyone should spend $250-$500 on any wedding they are invited to.
Personally I thought the $50 gifts I received were generous and most people who got me a shower gift did not bring an additional gift to the wedding. They were giving me my gift early. $780 for a close family members wedding is quite generous.
Most of my bridesmaids and groomsmen didn't get us anything as they were paying for their dresses and tuxes. It was understood that they were not rich and could not afford to spend even the $100-150 on outfits and accessories, and then another $50 for a gift.
If it were me, I would buy 8-10 of the cheap things off their registry. The $2 items (ice cream scoop, veggie peeler, garlic press) and put them all together in a basket. Spend less than $50 but get them a lot of items. I think that is a very nice. If you wish (and can afford) to give them a $50 gift card, I'm sure they will be very appreciative.
2007-05-30 05:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you are very generous!
Second, your shower gift can be counted as a wedding gift. Although some people give two, this is not an obligation, and the shower is supposed to be an opportunity to give gifts stemming from the days when it was socially improper to bring a gift to the wedding. You were to give a gift at the shower or drop it by the home of the bride's family.
If you still want to give a gift, because you are able and this person is important to you, I think a $50 gift card would be a wonderful gift! Maybe from somewhere where the couple is registered, so they can get something that wasn't bought off of their registry that they need.
2007-05-30 03:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Becca418 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to break it to you, but the amount of money that you've spent on your attire, shower planning, travel, and lodging have no impact at all on an appropriate wedding gift. You are paying these expenses because you agreed to when you agreed to be in the wedding party. I know it's a lot, but they are all optional expenses that you chose to pay for (you could have declined the invitation to be in the wedding).
The shower gift also does not factor into the wedding gift, as they are completely separate events and gifts. For example, most people don't base how much they spend on a Christmas gift on how much they spent on a birthday gift.
A general rule of thumb is that you should give an amount equal to how much it cost to host your places at the reception. For two adults and a child, I'd say that's about $150, if not more, if you're giving cash/check/gift card.
However, a wedding gift is optional altogether. You don't have to give one at all, and you shouldn't break the bank. Unfortunately, most newlyweds forget about this, and they probably will think it's rude for you to stiff them.
Why not make them something, which would skirt the whole money issue altogether? Or if you're not crafty, buy them something sweet and heartfelt?
2007-05-30 03:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The cost of the gift from your family should have nothing to do with how much the three of you are spending by being attendants. If money were a problem, you wouldn't have accepted all three of you being in the wedding party. I think your gift, not a gift card, should be a minimum of $100.
2007-05-30 05:31:18 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-06-02 20:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by Lali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never feel obligated to spend more than you can afford. I think 50.00 would be fine.
2007-05-30 03:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Again, gifts are NOT why you were invited to the wedding - and CERTAINLY not why you all were asked to be in the wedding party.
Give what you can - but DON'T break your budget.
2007-05-30 03:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
$50 is generous
2007-05-30 03:11:49 · answer #8 · answered by sam hill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would only do one for about $30.00. You have already spent a small fortune on this wedding.
2007-06-02 02:09:17 · answer #9 · answered by mamatucker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definetly!!! Give them $50 to Target!!!
2007-05-30 03:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by ♥lOvE♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋