please help me my ex boyfriend and yes we were never married and has kept my kids away from me for 2 months one is not biological his and he has'nt been taking them to school or to the doctor my daughter hasnt been since 05 and my son hasnt been since when i took him for kindergaten start up which was in 06 im not a bad mother my ex is'nt the one who watchs them it is his wife that he left me for. I really need help on this because it is killing my heart and soul and i cant get legal aid to support me cuz the person who does it is having to go though a surgry and everyone else want anywhere to3,000 to 5,000 and i have a low income and my family wont dis out that kind of money so i have left to do is defind myself and i'm a very shy shy person i dont know what to do im so scared my kids are the only reason im living today i will fight for them till the day i die
2007-05-30 02:59:02 · 5 answers · asked by Honeykiss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
With no money and not a lot of support this is going to take time.
And a whole new attitude change on your part. You can no longer rely on the "I'm a shy little helpless woman" routine. People get really tired of that - really quickly - and they've heard it before from lots of "shy little helpless women." So you're going to have to develop an attitude of determination and strength. You don't have to be pushy or brassy or mean - you should always be a lady - but a determined lady.
That said, precisely what happened that your Ex got your kids - one of whom isn't "his?" Were you declared an unfit mother by the courts - or did Ex just kick you out or what? You're not very clear here.
Now then, make a plan. Determine precisely what you want out of all of this - write it down - yep. get a spiral notebook and write everything down. Staple any piece of paperwork you have into this book so it's where you can find it quickly. Write down the names of people who can help you - Legal Aid, Women's groups, your church, your family (moral support) your boss, the governor, National Organization of Women, Focus on the Family, anyone you can think of.
Contact these groups and people. Ask for help. Be precise. I need to accomplish this specific task. I would appreciate your help - or, if you can't help me, can you tell me who can, please? This shows you are serious and not just some hysterical little whiner making trouble.
Keep going back to Legal Aid. Simply put, polietly and quietly but determinedly - don't take no for an answer. You may have to wait for the one in charge to come back from sick leave. Again just because you want something doesn't mean you're going to get it right away. But you are willing to wait until you get the help you need. Don't get discouraged - be patient.
Be willing to do your part too. Whatever it takes as you say. That may mean reading family law books as they apply to your state so that you have an idea of what it's going to take to get your kids back.
But you really need to use an attorney for this. And it's going to be a big deal.
I think you're up to it - as long as you are determined - not helpless.
2007-05-30 03:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he have a child who is not his? Anyway, any lawyer who takes on a case does have a payment option plan. Hoping you have a job, they may take $500 down and $200 a month. In a situation like this, you can't be shy. Open up, cry to the lawyer and explain to him or her you made mistakes in the past but it ends now. You need your kids as much as they need you. If you do not pay child support, the father can take your rights away as you have not been a part of their lives. You need to get on the phone now and start calling someone before it's too late. Good luck and try to keep me posted.
2007-05-30 03:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have legal custody of the children? If he isn't the biological father of one of the children, why would he have the child?! Calling the police probably won't solve anything since they do not interfere with custody issues. Contact your local Children and Youth Services, maybe they can help point you in the right direction as far as legal help...also, report them if it's true that they are not sending the children to school or taking care of their medical needs. Best of luck to you!
2007-05-30 03:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by terasa425 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where's your husband in all this? You mentioned in another question that you were married and having sex issues with your husband.
Is he involved in this at all? I'm sure that there is more than one legal aid person in your county, state that can help with the issue. Contact child support agency, Talk to them about it, you could most likely get mediation, which would get you into the courts sooner, they have all sorts of financial assistant programs out there to help you out, all it takes is a little bit of MOTIVIATION. If you cared that much, and were desperate, you'd be out calling people instead of asking us. If my ex took my kids, I guarantee I wouldnt be asking people about my sex life, or about my ex on the internet, I'd be hunting him down, getting police assistance, governmental assistance, whatever I needed to get my kids back. and If he has a kid that is NOT His, then it is kidnapping, get off the damn computer and actually TRY to get your kids back.
2007-05-30 03:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by mannasox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the police
2007-05-30 03:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by aprylL 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋