My daughter is 2 1/2, and has used the potty a few times. She was really excited about it at first, then a few months ago, she lost interest. Every time we talked about it - discussed putting on big girl pants, sitting on the potty, etc. - her response was always "No mom, I'll go on the potty when I'm three."
That was no big deal for me, I just figured I'd wait - but now her daycare that she goes to part time says that if she's fully potty trained by July that she can move up to the preschool room, which is a huge tuition break - incentive for us!!
My question is, I know the harder you push, the more they resist - but we could really use the tuition break right now. I've tried all the tips - she's picked out her own undies, she has the sticker chart, we've tried M&M rewards - everything I can think of. She's capable of using the potty, she just plain doesn't want to.
Anything else I can try to get this done ASAP? Thanks!
2007-05-30 02:38:37 · 8 answers · asked by fuffernut 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Children have very little in life that they can control. Bathroom time is one of the very few things.
If you let on that taking this step will benefit you more than her (i.e. the reduction in daycare cost), then you have taken away any incentive she had.
Don't forget that children are smart and are very capable of calculating risk vs. reward at a young age. Several other people answered on here with excellent ideas (prizes, etc) and I would go the full gammut and try them all until you find something that works.
Give her a lot more opportunities to make decisions about other areas such as: what she wears, what special movie to watch, what's for dinner (this one is tricky if all she likes are hot dogs, haha), etc. I think you'll find that by letting her have some control in other areas that she may ease up and give in more on bathroom time.
Above all be patient and understanding. Pray for fortitude and call friends and family for some moral support.
Good luck!
2007-05-30 03:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by Rick O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter will be 3 next month, this is how I just got her to go, and man was it a fight. I knew she knew how she just didn't want to. I put her in under ware ALL of the time. Even if she had an accident still right back to under ware because the Pull Ups were giving her permission to go in her pants. Then every time she would have an accident i would make her talk about it, which she hated because it pulled her away from whatever she was doing at the time. Also we agreed that one accident was forgivable but two in a row would result in a two min. time out. Then we got the pee thing down and she refused to go #2 on the potty. So I set up a treasure box filled with Dollar Tree toys. She got to pick something every time she pooped on the potty. That wasn't enough. So one day when she was showing the signs she did right before she pooped in her pants I put her on the potty and told her she could not get down until she went. She cried and I sat there and read a book. 3 and 1/2 hours later she finally went. And it has been a week now and not one accident. I have had to change her from the treasure box to a lolly pop because I was giving out two prizes a day.
This may just be a battle of wills.
Good luck.
2007-05-30 02:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by Pdoodles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not ready then. It doesn't matter if she is showing all the signs or not. But if you are trying the reward system, the wearing panties, the pottying while sitting her on her potty, she's just not ready if these don't work. My daughter who is almost 3 now was the same way. Just would not do it at all. She just choose not to. She'd do good for a little bit then just would stop and not do it at all. So we'd quit for a month and try again. She is now gonna turn 3 in April and we are now getting the potty training down. We have a ways to go because she still won't poop in the potty but its a start. She has few accidents and is still in a diaper at night and we have issues when we leave the house. All kids potty train at different times. If the child is not wanting to, there is no way to force the child. Disciplining the child will only lead to more accidents and bedwetting that could last a few years. So anybody who tells you its normal for a kid to be potty trained by 18 months doesn't know their facts. Just because thats not average. Avereage is between 2-3. Its when the kid hits 4 that ya got to start worrying. The pediatrician will be able to help you out if you ask. These were some of the things mine told me.
2016-05-17 04:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried mentioning to her that she could move up to the big kids room if she uses the potty at school? She may decide that she just wants to use it at school but at least it would be a step. She sounds intelligent and strong-willed. Decide now that honesty and discussion will be your best bet (not just now but think about her teens years too). Just tell her that school says if she uses the potty that she can go to the big kids' room. Maybe offer a new backpack and a complete set of new crayons and coloring books if she uses the potty all the time. My son is quite opinionated and was completely potty-trained at 2 but only when he wanted to be. We finally took him to the store and showed him bicycles and backpacks and told him he could have a new bike and a new backpack if he chose to use the potty all the time and to not pee or poop in his pants anymore. It worked for us. Good luck.
2007-05-30 02:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by Momofthreeboys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With my son, I bought a big, Sam's Club-size box of pull-ups and told him that when they were ALL GONE, there would be no more pull-ups. He was doing #1 fine, but not #2. He watched to amount in the box go down, and we were even able to 'help' empty the box a bit faster. When they were all gone, he tried to hold himself for three days. When he finally went, it filled the whole potty. But he never looked back, he just got used to it, due to the finality of the "ALL GONE" statement. We had to do something similar to get him to go from potty to toilet [he was 4 by now]. We cleaned up the potty all spotless and sanitary and gave it to a toddler we knew at church. The parents made a big deal of it [kind of an informal ceremony]. Again, he never looked back. Hope this helps. Otherwise, don't sweat it, your child is worth every dime in tuition you have to pay!
2007-05-30 02:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by Char 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay my kids (3 girls) were all potty trained at 20 months, You cant treat it like a chore BUT fun time! I got me some toys that has little tiny holes in the bottom and I went to the bathroom and filled them up with water, and began to play the "Potty Game", Have the toys act out a scene where they are playing , then ALL of the sudden have one go to the potty and tell how good they did....
I know it sounds silly but it worked for mine! There are steps to potty training the 1st step is getting the idea in their head.......GOOD LUCK!
2007-05-30 03:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by Courtney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just got my 3 year old potty trained! He didn't want anything to do with the potty!
I finally had to put his pants/shorts on with nothing on underneath and he would tell us he had to go. Amazing! I did that for a couple weeks and now he's potty trained! If he had on underwear or a pull-up in the beginning he wouldn't tell us. Worth a try.
2007-05-30 03:28:46 · answer #7 · answered by Mexicana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a huge tuition break idea!........Stay home and take care of your kid yourself!!!!!!
2007-05-30 02:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋