My daughter is 7. She has a horrible attitude! I tell her to do something and she has a smart remark back. She is always telling her brother and sister what to do. If they don't do what she says, she gets threatning (clenches her teeth, tells them she will hurt them, or yells at them). I tried smacking her face when she got an attitude. I have taken away her allowance because of her attitude. I just don't know what to do. I don't want her to become a bully! How can I curb her attitude so she can be a better person? What do ya'll suggest?
2007-05-30 01:48:22 · 15 answers · asked by cows4me79 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
slapping a 7 year old girl.
those things u explained are in her genes.
also, she has an allowance? at 7?
so she IS spoiled.
we all suggest that ya'll should change ur attitude towards life.
2007-05-30 06:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My broken record speech.....
First and foremost you must be consistent. There is no such thing as threats, there is no amount of "attitude" that is acceptable. A simple time out is sufficient.
Now the rough stuff:
By the way your question is worded, I speculate that the problem is with the parents. You are afraid your daughter is going to be killed? This must be a overstatement or else you would be seeking advice from something a bit more reliable then Yahoo answers...
Your statement, "smacking her face" leads me to believe that you believe that this is acceptable, and because you believe its acceptable, so does she. If you do not do what I want you to do, I will hit you.
Your 7 year old is learning her behaviour, most likely from you.
Get yourself some parenting classes, and maybe therapy for your family.
2007-05-30 15:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy for your Daughter and the entire family. An attitude in a 7 year old is most often a reflection on something else going on in the home. Kids learn behavior from what they see and experience. I'm not saying your a bad parent. A bad parent wouldn't be looking for help for their child. At this point intervention from a professional could be very beneficial for everyone. Don't assume she will grow out of it.
2007-05-30 09:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by Bonnie F 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should try talking to her and finding out why she is so angry, maybe she will tell you what is going on to cause the anger. Kids react differently to different things in their life. If not, try punishments like no tv after school, an earlier bedtime, no snacks or something that she really enjoys doing. I have an eight and a 4 year old. I found out that punishments and timeouts worked well for my kids. They absolutely hate timeouts or getting something that they love taken away from them. The allowance is the perfect thing to take away from her. I bet you that she will shape up. Even if she crys, don't give in, she can't cry forever. She will probably cry herself to sleep.
2007-05-30 15:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by donjour6961 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first you need to find out where all of this negative behavior is coming from and take it from there. Then you have sit down with her and let her know that what you are doing is wrong. Maybe you could find some tapes about bullys and what may happen to them. Some bullies end up lonely because they are so mean. and you are completely right, it may get her killed. It may be hard at first because she is so young and because she is so young, she was brought up this way. So find out where this behavior is coming from first. Hopes this helps!
2007-05-30 08:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Spare the rod,spoil the child.
She needs an attitude adjustment ( a belt to the azz )
2007-05-31 09:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Super Nanny!
No, in all seriousness, I would take her to therapy before her aggression gets worst and possibly harmful. Maybe she has some issues that you do not know about. Therapy can help children. Call around, usually a therapist will try "play therapy" with children, where they can act out their feelings and thoughts with toys. It tells alot about children.
2007-05-30 08:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by Mary A 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its a called punishment and consequence use the belt on her butt if that doesn't work send her to a residential school that knows how to deal with that kind of things and when you send her there see her for only every 2 or 3 months
2007-05-30 08:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by cable 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Just leave her alone... nothing straightenes out attitude like a punch in the mouth... and she is long overdue.
2007-05-30 08:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
a belt would work wonders. trust me
2007-05-30 10:06:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋