momma wants to fight!!!!!!!!?

Question

i am a wife and mother of 2 beautiful children. i have a problem with anger.....well i just like to fight not that im the best fighter out there i just aint scarred to get in someones face and that aint alway the way it goes some time i feel a little butterfly but i still will at least talk ****. well anyway my family thiunks it will do me some good to at least train to be a fighter at least learn the in and outs a kickboxing or just boxing . i do follow the ufc stuff i like watching and i know inside the ring has a little more action. so i guess my question is can a mother of with an anger problem be a fighter???? or not???

Answer 1

As a martial arts school owner, I can tell you right now that a student with anger management issues is a HUGE liability. They are dangerous to other students, to themselves, and even to the property should something tick them off in a lesson or a match. That is not the kind of student an instructor wants -- they're an accident waiting to happen. When a student shows anger issues, they are either "invited" not to return or they are counseled by the instructor and given a second chance, with the understanding that another display means they are shown the door.

Even if you are able to control your anger, you will need major self control because an angry fighter is a losing fighter. Fighters need to keep their heads focused on the ring, thinking strategy, looking for openings. Anger takes over the mind and clouds judgment, impairing the angry fighter and either making them a punching bag for the cool, collected opponent or making them fury on two legs that pounds the opponent and causes injury and gets disqualified.

I would recommend taking martial arts in a traditional system -- tae kwon do for its sparring, karate for its kumite -- and understand that the fighting aspect comes after much training. But in the meantime, I also advise seeking therapy to help express anger in a positive way rather than looking for a fight.

Answer 2

Anyone can train to be a fighter-not everyone should be a fighter. Just being aggressive is not enough and many people train in boxing, kickboxing and MMA for the workouts and only fight within the safety of their own schools or studios where nobody gets hurt.
Its a different situation in an actual match in a ring where there is a winner and a loser and the other person is there to win which means inflicting some kind of damage on you and only your skill and abilities stand in their way.
For anyone that is thinking of being a fighter or trying it out I always take them with me to a card and have them sit at ringside for a fight or two while I am judging. Many of those people come away with a new feeling about this and the amount of punishment that some fighters absorb and decide that they only want to be an "in school" fighter. Sitting 15 rows back or watching it on television does not allow you to really see, hear, and get a feel for just how much some fighters have to go through and endure.
As for the anger problem if you do decide to be a fighter you will soon learn that in order to be a good and successful fighter you will need to be smart and control your emotions and to turn them on and off like a water faucet. Most good, smart fighters do this and its really only a self-control issue and maybe you should look at it a little more objectivlly. While the workouts may give you an outlet for some of this you will find that a good smart fighter will beat a good fighter almost every time.

Answer 3

I too sometimes have problems controling my anger, it was worse when I was a kid. You need to find a good traditional martial art school, not a sport dojo, or a mcdojo, but one where the training is like it is in Japan, very disciplined, and learning meditation will help too. Not being scarred to get in someone's face is a good and a bad thing, it shows that you can stand up for yourself, and contrary to what others have said I would be happy to have you as student in a dojo, as long as you let everyone help you with your anger management.

Answer 4

Anybody who an anger problem is just asking for trouble, whether is in the ring or outside.

Anger leads to more anger, if you spar against people while you are angry, you won't watch your power, and usually sparring partners will return the favor, if they are experienced you will get hurt.

Instructors don't like people with anger issues, it brings a negative influence to class. Martial arts is also about control and respect.

I used to have a similar problem years ago, and learned to control my anger, this came with age.

Not fearing to fight is not wise, as some people don't fear to hurt or kill others

advice: try anger management

good luck

Answer 5

It would seem that the answer to that question is obvious. You are already a fighter - but being a great fighter, well it's probable that you will not be - not at least until you learn to manage and control yourself.

It seems that you don't aspire enough to raise yourself beyond any significant level.

In all likelyhood, of much more valuable assistance to you, and especially to your children, would be to seek the aid, counsel of a professional mental health care provider.

I would think that this would be of a higher priority.

Answer 6

as a martial artist, i'd rather you did the anger management course first!!! we don't need hotheads in MA, the dojo requires a lot of respect and consideration at all times, not very likely if you tend to go off on one at the drop of a hat. if you're serious about learning find out from your local sports council where there are classes in your area, but if you're just looking to fight > don't think it would help you, as control is required

Answer 7

I don't think the sport needs mentally unstable people that feel like beating on someone. Feel free to train and spar with people at your gym, but if you were to compete and then start swearing and acting like a hooligan after the fight that would not be good. Get into it because you want to compete and push yourself not because you "just aint scarred to get in someones face."

Answer 8

ummmm fighting may not quell the anger. I'd advise meditation or yoga to deal with whatever is causeing the anger. Al,so some counseling.

Answer 9

Absolutely go to a martial arts school and prepay for a year of lessons, so you won't quit. Learn to take your anger out on the pads at the school. Pay attention to your teachers, and learn from them how to discipline without striking out. Learn patience. Be prepared to be humbled.

Answer 10

You need an anger management course. Forget the boxing and try something in the martial arts. It will help you respect yourself and your opponent and teach you selfcontrol.