i have very strong feelings for this young lady,n cant stop thinking bout her all day every day.i have very little contact with her on a day to day basis,but have very strong feelings for her,i think she knows how i feel bout her ,but i know she doesnt think or feel bout me like i do for her,am i in love or what? Problem is she is married to another guy
Please help
2007-05-30 00:48:41 · 17 answers · asked by joe m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, married lady = HANDS OFF!
Secondly, noone is truly in love in that time frame. I fell fast for my husband, and we were married 11 months later. We still have a very good marriage, but I realize now that those first feelings were of infatuation. However, the thing that made it work was the admiration beneath. I was very attracted to the person he was, and the person he was working to be.
If this woman should hook up with you outside her marriage, or dump her husband for you, do you think you would admire her???
2007-05-30 00:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this from someone who has been down this road more times than he can count. There's a 90% chance that this just lust building off emotions that amplify it like loneliness. This is one of those times were you need to realize she's not accessible (married) and this will pass sooner than you think. I just had something similar like this happen to me last month and I was amazed that the feelings passed within a week of me accepting the fact it's not going to happen. Good luck mate, but I don't think this is love. Love is something that you need to build from the bottom up.
2007-05-30 07:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by EDizzle03 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although you may be attracted to her, back away. I know it's hard. Don't interrupt her current relationship. You need to redirect your romantic interests elsewhere. She's married. The door is closed to anyone else like you. Don't wait around the hopes that she will get a divorce and then come running to you. It doesn't work that way. You can be her friend, but realize that it can't be more than that. Sorry.
2007-05-30 07:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you're in love or not, there's nothing you can do. She's a married woman, so the only thing you'd be doing by pursuing her is bringing trouble to her and yourself. Let her be, and let time go. If she remains with her husband, then she obviously loves him, and you can do nothing but mourn. Take your losses and learn from them. I know it'll be painful, but even if it is love, it won't last forever. There are millions of women in the world, single women. Don't waste your time on a married one.
2007-05-30 07:54:09 · answer #4 · answered by Niko? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your in love with her and you think about her all the time , then I think you should wait for her. If you really want to have a relationship with her , let her know how you fell when the time is right . Even if she is married it doesn't mean she doesn't like you . She probably has feelings for you too , but she is probably caught in tight relationship with her husband.
2007-05-30 07:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a strong crush.You are attracted to her physical beauty.Even if you think this is love please don't do anything about it, don't tell her especially because you know she does not feel the same.Also it's best if you stay away from married women.Such kind of relationships only cause pain.You will hurt yourself, her and her husband.
2007-05-30 07:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by J F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should even bother, develop this feeling towards this lady since she's married. I can tell you're not really in love with her. You were just attracted to her.
2007-05-30 07:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by maelynx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably more in the 'crush' stage, although I grant, you've got it bad.
She is the 'forbidden fruit', which makes her more appealing. Chances are that if you got to know her well, there would be lots of aspects to her personality that you won't like. You can't be in love, until you've seen the person's dark side (and we all have one).
If you still love the person after seeing them at their absolute worse, then and only then are you in love.
2007-05-30 07:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by Fancy That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on she is already married i feel u might be a sexy so forget begin a new life if u r free u can always chat with &my mail is chocolatety_pooh@yahoo.com i can always b of your help as good friend 7i guess u r in luv with her but u have a whole life 2 live
2007-05-30 07:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i guess you r in love with her ..but don't you think that you should give all that love to somebody who will love you back ..and feel the same towards you ..try to get away ..she's married ..so she belongs to another man ..and i think she loves her husband...so leave now ..because you'll get hurt more by staying in love with her ..
2007-05-30 07:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by ^^ANGEL^^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋