I have a son of six years old who has started school. I broke up with his father when he was only two years old and since my son was born i had to remind the father to by things for him as if he didn't know that he has to maintain. After we broke up it became worse 'cause even today he does'nt give him a cent. In other words i have been maintaining my son since he was born and so far i am coping so well even though sometimes i just feel that it is unfair for me 'cause it's also his responsibility to maintain the child. I'm now thinking of taking legal steps and take him to court 'cause i never made that child alone, it took two to tango and now he is running away from his responsibilities and the worse part he has another child whom i don't know that he is maintaining. Anyway i'm worried about the future of my son, he's growing and i don't know if I'll cope financial unti he has grown enough to take care of himself. guys do you really think that I'll be unfair if i take him to court?
2007-05-30 00:35:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I'm 25 and he is 28 and we are both working but still we both have to take the responsibilty of raising our son. I have moved on with my life, what ever we had, We had, but that doesn't have to affect my son, he's innocent. All he needs is a father.
2007-05-30 00:41:56 · update #1
My parents divorced when I was three years old. When I was about 9, my dad decided to quit paying child support. This resulted in a court order that has him still paying child support to this day. (I'm 23) I'm convinced my dad doesn't care, my mother had to go through all kinds of litigation to make him pay by docking his military retirement pay! It's not unfair to make a father to at least participate partly in the care of their child, although $375 dollars a month really is not a substitute for a parent.
2007-06-05 18:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by Holly G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing by taking action! But it doesn't have to be all about court. Go to your local DFS office and file a child support application! Easy as that. Don't let you and your son suffer b/c hi father has chosen to be irresponsible. And don't ever feel guilty, you are right, it takes two to tango! God bless!
2007-05-30 07:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberley B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course, the child is starting to grow up now. It's going to be sad for him not to have a dad to buy at least a Birthday gift for him. As the child gets mature, he will realize and get the idea the father doesn't love Him!! I would state this at court.
2007-05-30 07:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by Edyta 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i was you i would deftinatly get ahold of your attorney general of your state and file for child support as long as you know where they live so they can be served papers. Also when you get to court you can request to have his WAGES GARNISHED that way you do not have to fight him for support they will send a letter to his employeer that way the money comes automatically out of his check. Also they will request that he add your son to his medical insuarnce. And be prepared for a DNA test most men ask for one to get out of paying child support right away. I doubt u crawled ontop of yourself and got pregnant I think it's only fair you take him to court. Too many guys get women pregnant then leave them to deal with the consequences
2007-05-30 13:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by Sasha R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck, no. He made the child, he can help pay for the child. And no, I realize that it's not all about the money, but how much more can you do for your child with a couple of extra hundred dollars a month that your child is entitled to anyway? It's your kid's money. Get it for him. He has no other advocate.
2007-05-30 07:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him love his child and be an active part of his life, but you can darn sure make sure he pays his share financially.
Take him to court and get what your son deserves.
2007-05-30 11:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by Apple21 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As your son gets older there will be more expenses. I suggest that you do seek the help of his father.Child support agency will help you to get backpay which he owes anyway.I understand as I am having trounle getting child support.
2007-06-03 18:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you wait six years to think about taking him to court for support?
2007-06-03 16:03:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody is right about taking him too court,i have a toll free number that is for parents that has been trying to get parents to pay for non support and manage not having to pay it,but these people will see that he does pay. i just called that number and its the right one,i got it off TV.
GoodLuck
2007-05-30 08:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by rebelady28379 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it what is he thinking that he has no responsibilities with his son I think that court is going to make him pay whatever he has to pay since he left!
2007-06-04 21:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by angel star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋