we are going out 2and a half years and for the last year we barely have sex once every two weeks and even then she shows no interest. :(
i am very good to her all the time buying her gifts and doing all the housework as well as my job... i am told i am goodlooking.she is 24 and i am 30.i love her but cant stand being pushed away all the time.what can i do?
2007-05-30 00:02:21 · 17 answers · asked by upset guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its not that i'm bad in bed she ***'s when we do have sex,and i know that girls need time with no pressure to get comfortable with themselves but i have given her loads of time..i really feel gutted
2007-05-30 00:19:29 · update #1
yes i do try and talk about it but she just gets vicious and storms out the door or breaks down crying????
2007-05-30 00:22:50 · update #2
If your girl stops having sex with you obviously shes sleeping with someone else..i suggest you find out who it is and cap his azz
2007-05-30 00:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is only along for all the gifts and the free maid service you are providing. I wouldn't be surprised if there is someone else at this point. You need to either end it, or try and rekindle your romance if you really think the relationship is worth saving. You have to ask yourself is it really worth it if she shows no interest anymore? What is the point? I personally would have a hard time loving someone that showed no interest that I treated so well.
2007-05-30 07:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by crimson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she isn't being satisfied when you have sex. Try finding out what she enjoys. Don't worry too much, she will be hitting the women's sexual peak in a few years, and you may not be able to keep up!
By the way, foreplay is more mental for a woman, than physical. It starts long before you ever reach the bedroom. Try reading that book "Women are from Venus, Men from Mars" (I think that is the name of it.).
2007-05-30 07:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her. Make sure she feels comfortable being honest with you. These subjects can often times be the hardest for women. Could she be bored with your sex life? Has sex become the same thing over and over? Have you two been getting along in other areas? Have there been unresolved issues in your relationship?
There could be a lot of reasons for this slump. It could be that she is bored, or that she has other things on her mind, it could also be that this relationship isn't working for her (that usually shows itself first in sex). These might not be things you want to hear but they are reasons.
2007-05-30 07:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are more like a housekeeper then a man;y man.
everyone like to have a house keeper but.. no one ***** them.
you think you are good to her..but it's bad for her attraction toward you. girls love chellege.. and you are give none to her.
read attraction isn't a choice by david deangelo.
and other books by him.
you need to learn how to turn on a atrraction so she begs to be in bed with you.
you need to shift your mind set from.. i need to be do more so she will have sex with me more to... what can i do so she begs for it everytime and we do it when ever fell like it.
1. you are not good to her. don't think things are fine. declare breakdown. you get no sex and no respect. either you do what ever you need to get it handled or move on!! 30/24 is too young to have a sex problem.
2. your mom told you to be nice to the girls when your 7. even though girls say they want all that. it girly man manke women loose interest.
3. are you in shape??? if she is 24 and good looking.. she gets approched at lease 10 times a day. ( not just her all the good looking womens realty.) are you in competitve shape??
4. If all else fails are you willing to walk away for your happiness instead of settling for half *** okay someday co-enviroment??
read read read david deangelo stuff
2007-05-30 07:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by CHRIS10202 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to her seriously about it. Maybe she has some problems (pain or feeling uncomfortable) during sex which she won't tell just like that. Or maybe she was abused as a child, or she's just don't feel a need to have sex. Maybe she masturbates excessively so she don't need to to have sex with you or she she has sex with someone else. Whatever is the answer you have to decide what to do next about it. Is your relationship worth enough to solve it together or you just split.
2007-05-30 07:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two options.
1) Leave her and find someone else who is more interested in sex.
2) Marry her and never worry about having sex again.
Quit being a door mat
2007-05-30 07:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my do that sometimes with my b.f! but we have a healthy sex life! coming from a girl that acts like how u describe her I push my b/f away because I am actual bored of sex and tired of having sex with the same guy over and over again! but thats only sometimes for me! mostly is because im tired! shes not cheating on you or having sex with others i dont know why other guys think that! ask her why she is acting like this and ask her what she wants out of you! thats what my b/f did and i actual felt bad!
2007-05-30 07:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by loveme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there has to be a reason she has turned against sex, unless she has been this way the entire time... stop babying her for one, that has got to stop, and talk to her, tell her that your needs aren't really being met, and that this is a huge problem for you.. if that doesn't work, maybe its time to move on to someone that can fullfill you in every way.
2007-05-30 07:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by emtb9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to make sure if she loves you first
maybe she just hang out with you to do the housework and spend money on her not as lover
if she loves you maybe she's not ready for some reason
2007-05-30 07:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by Adviser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋