I distrust my former boss to give me a reference?

Question

I distrust my former boss to give me a reference. But wouldn't the boss look bad if they did give me a bad reference. This could encompass just a flat, unenthusiastic description of me rather than blantant slander.

What is the protocol? Would bosses who agree to give references always stick to the high road because they would have more to lose (or be questioned for) if they gave a negative reference?

Why I don't think my work was poor, I distrust former bosses' motivations or intentions and don't have that many contacts to provide potential employers. Plus, some employers ask for references only from past supervisors.

i think references are meaningless. there has to be better ways for a company to learn more about you than speak with people you know or people who can lie about you

Answer 1

In a lot of businesses, immediate supervisors may not be permitted to give references. In such cases, references go through the Human Relations Department, and they will generally verify that a person was employed there without making any comment about work behavior or level of productivity.

So many businesses and supervisors are afraid of being sued if a negative reference causes a person to be declined for a new position. For that reason, most references are "neutral."

In a manner of speaking, you are right, references have become meaningless.

Answer 2

bosses do that...some are just not to the stage they can get the point that makes them look bad...you just have to move forward and know that if he/she gives you a bad reference and the people hire you anyway they know about bitterness and are willing to give you a chance on your own merit...this is a horrible situation and it makes you second guess yourself and things you are doing...i hate being in that situation but it does happen and you cant make everyone happy or make them act adult...no matter what position they hold...sorry

Answer 3

have a friend call your boss poasing as a employer and have him ask about your work skills then you will know what they will say about you when a real employer contacts them.