My mother and brothers treated me like I'm a freak and that I'm not special...etc! Growing up was hard for me, becuase of this I separated myself from others who I think is special enough to me and never speak to them because I dont want to be called a freak or something horrible by them. Years and years of telling myself that I am as special as everybody, I've overcome my weakness and started being confident in myself. But there's just one more step that I can't quite do, talking to my boss or anything that I feel is more superior than me. Can anybody give tips on how to deal with my problem? Had anybody had experienced this kind of situation? Please help....
2007-05-29 22:50:14 · 7 answers · asked by mum who cares 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
i used to have this problem and it caused me a lot of pain and grief...i ended up letting bosses take advantage of me because i was afraid to speak for myself...even in the simpliest matters...one boss i would shake so hard she would just have me go to my office and call me on the phone to tell me stuff because she didn't want to cause me that stress (thankfully she was open to me)...one way i did get over it is by pretending i was someone else when i went to the bosses office...seriously...i would pick someone in my life who could do that and was confident (not a butthead just assertive)...i would pretend i was that person and i would force myself to act like them...mannerisms etc...slowly (and i do mean slowly) i became comfortable with the situation and now i go in with coffee and even tell them when i think it is time for a short break...it can work...
2007-05-29 23:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by Daisy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was like this when I first started working..I still saw myself as a child, even though I was an adult. I would jot down some things I wanted to talk about so I didnt sound like a babbling idiot when I went to talk to the person. It was a small step and actually helped a lot. Luckily my boss is very friendly and put me at ease. I feel very comfortable going to her about things that come up or ideas I may have that I would like a second opinion on.
Good Luck
2007-05-30 02:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely can relate to what you are saying. I think it would be really helpful for you to speak to a councilor. Even if you think that you have dealt with your childhood issues it is really hard to do it on your own. Things can be buried so deeply sometimes you don't ever realize how the affect your reactions to things.
I know this may sound cheesy if you have not experienced it yourself but what has helped me the most is a close, personal relationship with Jesus. Once you realize, deep down inside that it does not matter how the world sees you, only how God sees you, and He does love you, then the rest of the world's opinion of you seems to have less of a sting.
Good luck to you.
2007-05-29 23:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by barksabit 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I have experienced exactly the same as you. I keep telling myself that I'm a grown woman and he's just a man, but it doesn't help. When we have meetings my palms sweat and I dread having to talk to him. I've always been the same! Apparently you can get lessons on how to be more assertive and gain more confidence. You can have a look on line at courses that are near where you live. Good luck.
2007-05-29 22:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 07:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you do your job, you have absolutely no reason to fear anything. Leave the nervousness for those who slack off. You just continue to be confident in what you do, and it will become a normal thing for you.
2007-05-29 22:58:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best way to meet your biggest fear is to face it head on.
2007-05-29 22:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by jsardi56 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋