what does it mean if you're gay, BUT you're only into "straight" men or those that "act straight"?

Question

this is me.
i am 100% gay. i dont act it though.
well i like to think that :P
BUT
i'm only attracted to straight guys.
im not attracted to gay guys unless they act quite straight in the first place.
so is that normal for a homosexual person?
its more than a fantasy, or desire.
its only what im attracted to.
please tell me this is not wierd
and what not.

wow CJ, glad to see you're trying to be mature

Answer 1

Me too. I'm 100% gay but I don't act it and I'm only attracted to guys who act straight.

Actually, there was this feminine guy that was hitting on me a couple of months ago and we went out and I even felt weird when he was touching me (which is *never* the case when going out with a straight-acting guy). I guess feminine guys are not my type. Nothing wrong with that.

Just means you're screwed, cause they outnumber us. :D

Answer 2

You neglect the annoyingly inconvenient fact that the great majority of child abusers are straight. You also neglect the fact that most cross dressers are also straight. Oops, there go the two major props of your slippery slope and it's fallen flat. Too bad, so sad. You lose this round. Try again. Or not. Your lie was wrong the first time some homophobic halfwit thought it was clever, it was wrong the next ten thousand times other homophobic halfwits thought it was clever, it's wrong this time, and it'll still be wrong the next time some homophobic halfwit thinks it's clever. Edit: Nice try at deflection, but you still lose. Go look at the real records of real child abusers, not the imaginary ones you Fundies keep dreaming up to scare people with. Your scenario relies upon the myth that gays are predatory pedophiles. The reality is that the number of predatory pedophilic gay men is vanishingly small. There's no way on Earth that your scenario would ever come true. You see the simple reason is that organisations run for children have a process of careful background checks and systems in place which prevent *anyone* from ever being alone with a child. If you're in the least bit clued in, you just don't let a situation happen where there's even the appearance of being alone with a child. So say goodbye to your fearmongering, it doesn't happen. And learn to spell, Einstein: My name is Jessie, not Jesse.

Answer 3

There is no such thing as "acting gay" or "acting straight".
People are people. There is no group of people in which everyone thinks, says, or does the same things.

If you're saying that you're not attracted to men who act in a manner that is stereotypically feminine, there is nothing wrong with this. It does NOT make you strange or any less gay, because being a homosexual man is not the equivalent of being a feminine man (or a masculine man) just as being a lesbian is not the equivalent of being a masculine woman (or a feminine woman). We are who we are. Sexuality is only one part of our identity, and it doesn't determine all the other parts of our identity.

Answer 4

Of course it's not weird!:) This isn't about being attracted to straight men per se (I assume). All it means is that you're not especially attracted to camp men. That's perfectly normal. As not all gay men are camp, you're fine.

I think that this "straight acting" thing is a bit of a misleading term. I doubt if many "straight acting" gay men are consciously trying to appear less gay. I also happen to know quite a few camp straight men who certainly don't intend to appear gay.

Answer 5

It means you are very picky and a bit superficial. The the only thing you mentioned is how a guy acts. Why not get to know him as a person. What are his ambitions, is he kind to others, what are his hobbies, is he happy? These are the things that make a man attractive not how he acts because it could all just be a pretend act.

Answer 6

Your attraction seems to me to be more understandable than the attraction some gay men have for effeminate men. If a man is gay, he is attracted to MEN. Think about it, if a man was attracted to people who were feminine, he might as well be straight.

Answer 7

In other words you're a fairly ordinary gay man, you just haven't ditched the descriptor "straight" for non-sexual behavior yet. Try using "butch", "masculine", "guy-ish", or something along those lines and see if you might feel a little better about yourself.

Answer 8

Dear hs,

Attraction is attraction, we have no control over it :)

It takes all types to make the world go round - and isn't that a good thing? LOL

Don't label yourself, or accept labels from others.

I too am what other people in the gay community would refer to as "str8 acting".

But to me, I am just me! I don't "act" this way - I just AM this way!

I am also attracted to "str8 acting" guys?

Why? Who the hell knows?

It could be because I grew up in the country and there were no "flaming queens" for me to associate with? It could be some kind of Freudian nonsense going on in my head?

Or, it could just be that like some str8 guys that like girls with big breasts, or wide butts, or small breasts, or blonde hair, or whatever - you and I like "str8 acting" guys.

Man I hate that term "str8 acting"!!!! It is just as bad as all the other labels.

Why is it that a community of people that don't like being labelled, have to go and start putting labels on themselves????

Answer 9

You aren't interested in "straight" men...you just have a type that you like...the more "macho" gay. They are out there and they ARE a definite type. Just like there are more "masculine" lesbians and those who come across as more "feminine"...it works the same in the homosexual community. You are perfectly normal.

Answer 10

Just means your attracted to men that are more masculin than guys that are more feminin...nothing wrong just a preference