my husband works with this girl so she's fully aware that he's married but still went ahead with the affair.p.s. she's 24 yrs old and single with a kid.
2007-05-29 22:30:35 · 34 answers · asked by peppermint 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You tell her NOTHING! You tell your husband, Good bye! He the one who chose to hurt you! This girl is not to blame for your husband's affair, your husband is! Your husband is the one who made a committment to be married, not her, she doesn't have any committments. Now get this straight: Your husband went out of his way to 1) flirt with this girl 2) take time out to secretly meet with this girl, 3) take time out to find a place for them to have sex and 4) find ways to lie to you time and time again. That's what a nice guy he is and that's how much he cares about you. This girl promised you nothing. He promised you everything.
2007-05-30 00:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question should be, what do you tell your husband? He's the one who is married. That girl was just the person HE had the affair with. Why should the girl care about you if your own husband didnt?
Dont make the mistake of thinking your husband is the more innocent one.
2007-05-29 22:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by jezza 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are fully entitled to feel hatred towards the girl that your husband cheated on you with.
The truth is that your husband is an ****** for cheating on his wife, and she is a skank for being his fling.
No matter what you say or do will reverse the affair though, and saying bitter and nasty things will do nothing else than poison your own soul - They won't feel guilty in the way that you would hope because they went ahead and did it, your hurt will always outweigh their guilt by far.
2007-05-29 23:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could tell her to find an unattached man. You are MARRIED to the guy she is having an affair with. You have wifely rights. She doesn't.
And tell your husband, he had better stop the affair or you will use your wifely rights on him.
Honestly, nowadays, I think some people simply do not respect legally married men and women.
2007-05-29 23:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by Hani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she still in the picture? If so simply go to her, tell her she is welcome to him and then explain in minute detail all of the unattractive things about him - all the medications he takes, how he trims his toenails in the living room and leaves the clippings on the coffee table, or the variety of toenail fungus creams he uses, that his nose hair trimmer has a prominent place on the kitchen counter, that he likes to fart in bed and the shove you under the covers to experience the "aroma". What ever his faults are you know them better than anyone and having these things highlighted for her should send her running in terror.
Something else to keep in mind: She is single, and though it is pretty low to snake another woman's husband - she does not owe you anything. He on the other hand does. So while she may be a snake - the blame really belongs to him. He is married, he made promises to you and broke them - so really, he is an even worse snake that she is. Try not to blame her - he is the one that screwed up.
2007-05-29 22:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by andijxo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maby you should rather spare yourself any further pain. There is nothing you can say to her that will hurt as much as you have been hurt. I hope you have talked to your husband. I hope that they are not working together anymore, because this can only cause problems. Rather talk to your husband and try to find out what he needs from you to be happy and tell him what you need to be happy. If you cant solve these problems, he will probably have an affair with someone else or leave you completely. You need to gain trust in each other to save your marriage.
2007-05-29 22:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by LeaB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More importantly, you tell yourself what you should do now that your husband has cheated on you! If you can't trust your husband you can't trust anyone....when he choose to cheat he walked away from your marriage - plain & simple, he decided you weren't that special one anymore who he took vows with....it's not like he wants to be some other kid's daddy....he probably comes up with the being bored, alone & not thinking excuses....he checked out of the marriage!
2007-05-29 22:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by eluvsdmode 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not she you have to tell anything...........it's your husband who needs telling. If your husband doesn't respect/love you enough to stop the affair, then it's time to get a divorce.
2007-05-30 02:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The husband is the most guilty, because she couldn't have cheated with him if he wasn't going for it. I wouldn't lower myself to speak to her. Nothing you say to her will be effective anyway. I would sure get tested, there are some deadly diseases out there. I'd also be talking to the divorce lawyer.
2007-05-29 22:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave your husband! Forget about the girl, she is a homewrecking hoar but your husband is the one who took vows with you, he's the one who you should be blaming because if it wasn't that girl it would be another.
2007-05-30 00:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋