I am 27 years old, and never have ever had sex before. never planned to either until I reached marriage. Me and my boyfriend were watching a movie on tv. Boom boom bam! All the sudden we were naked on the couch. I feel ashamed! How do I tell my parents I had sex?!?! I'm really upset and mad at myself for doing this, before marriage!
2007-05-29 21:05:14 · 40 answers · asked by Lynette R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
How do I tell my parents? (I don't live with them btw but I live a few blocks away from them)
2007-05-29 21:08:18 · update #1
They don't need to know.
You are 27........
2007-05-29 21:07:30 · answer #1 · answered by ... 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a 28 year old mother of three beautiful children 2 girls, 1 boy and 1 baby girl on the way will make 4 children As a parent I have established a friendship with my oldest daughter not only to be a parent to her but to be her friend. My daughter is only 10years old but I have talked to her about all the things that go along with sex including ST D's and we have a very open relationship about sex. If you happen to have that kind of relationship with your mother that is who I would start with first. On other circumstances the best way to tell your parents is to be honest with them about everything you have experienced. You are 27 years old! A grown ADULT. YOUR PARENSTS WILL UNDERSTAND. You should not be mad or ashamed of anything. I as a young mother had sex very very young in age. Like 13 ,14 years old. I think you waiting this long is peer self control and not knowing you I am proud of you. To know there are young adults that have great morals on who they are . When and if you decide to have children you should pass that on to your children as I'm sure you will. Marriage isn't everything but a piece of paper from my personal experience. I'm divorced now from a abusive not only physical but mental marriage of only 8 years, and I made a mistake marring that man, except for the three children we concived. Now I'm with a 38 year old man, that has great fatherly morals and respect for me and my children and we are expecting a beautiful baby girl we haved named Amy Faith. So don't be mad or ashmed of anything but keep up the self respect you have and be sure if you do marry this Boyfriend or yours, know who he really is and how he's like. I thought I knew My Xhusband. He was my high school sweet heart. Or so I thought.
2007-05-29 21:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
my goodness my dear, these things shouldn't be consulted to your parents. First of all, they are your parents and it is their duty to protect you, if you'll tell them, they'll ask you to stay away from your b/f or partner, then they'll think that you're pregnant and be ashamed of you. You're lucky if you have a very understanding and cool parents, they will really understand especially mothers. Plus you are already on the right age, so stop fretting about it.
If you really want to be honest with your parents, start with your mother. Be sure that she's in a good and silky mood, ask her for dinner, movie or watch TV in your bedroom. Then act so sweetly like a toddler and get her innermost attention to listen to you. While doing this, make a puppy eyes. Then the words will simply get in the way.
Goodluck!
2007-05-29 21:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by askme n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't stress over it your a grown woman and it was your choose ,but I do think if you were going to have sex for the first time then you should of had it with someone special that loves. Don't get pressured into getting married at early age and you have your whole life to explore the good things about life ,but we have different beliefs and that's okay .You have to be able to look in the mirror and still love yourself no matter what you're parents think and be okay with your mistake and live your life the way you want.
2007-05-29 21:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by gabby (sweetgirl) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to a professional counselor or social worker. You should also get some condoms and learn how to use them in case it happens again. You can't change the past so try to learn from your experience. Certain movies may not be a good idea. If you trust your parents maybe you should talk to one of them about it. Sex can lead to pregnancy. Are you ready for a baby. Talk to a responsible adult that knows you well about your situation if not your parents or a professional counselor.
2007-05-30 00:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by peaches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK--you're 27. If you were 10 years or so younger, that would be the time to worry. But now---you might be surprised that they might have thought it happened before now! Don't sweat this thing! Unless you find yourself pregnant, they really don't need to know (and if you are pregnant, they would figure the act out in less than 5 seconds, I'm sure!). Good luck and be careful out there!
2007-05-29 22:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by Mudcat007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lynette, what happened happened. Like what the other respondents have already said, there is no need to tell your parents. But I would go as far as even tell you that you need to forgive yourself.
Btw, those people who seem saintly to you may have their own skeletons in their cupboards. In other words, there is no need for you to feel as if you're all alone and that you committed some capital crime. This kind of thinking is one big self-deception and will only make you feel more guilty than you really should.
2007-05-29 21:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by Dowland 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 27. Why would you want or feel the need to tell your parents?! I can understand being upset with yourself because you failed to reach a goal you had set for yourself.... But to be worried about what your parents will think on top of it... at 27 years of age... just let it go!
Best of luck!
2007-05-29 21:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason to tell any one anything. Some things are just too personal to discuss even with you parents. And consider this. Your parents probably do not want to know the detals of your sex life.
I am 65 years old. I raised three children and am raising my grandson......age 10. After my children reached adulthood I really have no interest in their personal affairs. My sex life is none of their business and their sex life is none of my business.
It sounds to me like you need to grow up and become independent of your parents. You are far too dependent on their approval.
2007-05-29 21:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhh... i know how that could be a problem... i promised myself and my parents that sex would be for marriage, and marriage alone.
they are your parents, and they love you for being you. you're 27 though, and i'm not sure that everything you do has to be open... I respect you for wanting to tell them though. that would be the last thing that i wanted to do, or even do.
but, to tell them, just be open about it. tell them that you made a big mistake, and that you are ashamed. (you obviously are ashamed, you told all of Yahoo Answers). Just tell them that you are mad with yourself... Saying that, and just telling them in the first place will show that you are really sorry, and i'm sure, that even though they might be dissapointed, that they will be proud of you for realizing that it might've been wrong.
2007-05-31 11:45:40 · answer #10 · answered by VGW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why on EARTH would u tell them? what they dont know wont hurt them.....sure ur gonna feel guilty for a while, just make a vow never to do it again until ur married. not to justify it, but everyone slips up. theres nothing wrong with becoming a born again virgin. u have hormones, and its not necessarily all your fault that your hormones got the best of u. seriously though, DON'T tell your parents. im sure they already suspect u've done it, in this day and age.
2007-05-29 21:13:04 · answer #11 · answered by waterlily750 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋