if faced between choosing two women :
1) your wife - jealuos and nagging and contrlling you cannot be alone or have freedoms she always thinks your cheatng and never stops btichign at you and threatneing to take your kid away so you never see him again. or
2) an ex girlfreind you missed for years, but now she is a wreck.. in credit trouble , and also pregnant and single and maybe possibly going on welfare.
which would you choose, and why? im asking this for my brother
2007-05-29 19:59:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The wife sounds like she is verbally and emotionally abusive. I would stay with the X girlfriend while I tried to get custody of my child during the divorce.
2007-05-29 21:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by juniper555 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably neither.
He should first try and sort things out with the wife. If he has done so and is at the end of the road... let them both go, there is no future with eaither of them...
That would be a LAST RESORT, but hey, if they've tried counselling etc... there's nowhere else to go.
He would only be with the ex girlfriend out of sympathy by the sounds of it.
2007-05-30 03:04:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He made the choice when he married. That should be the end of it. If he messes around with the ex then that will give her grounds to win a contested divorce. If wants to get a divorce then tell him to talk to a lawyer and see what the lawyer tells him.
2007-05-30 03:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by Future Citizen of Forvik 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you stand before an alter, in the presence of God, your family and friends and commit to a vow of love and faithfulness .......it isn't until I get tired of them or until I'm not happy this very second. Unless there is cheating, abuse or something to THAT degree I feel you have made your commitment. If it is not meant to be then God will absolve it. JMO
2007-05-30 03:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
between the 2? the wife.
The ex is the last thing you need, and she's pregnant(unless it is his) you really don't need that. and if he left the wife, she would ruin him. no joke.
The wife, can be worked on. heck he could plan an escape and get close to the wife, while doing it.
2007-05-30 04:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Has your brother nominated you to make the decision. What he should do is make the choice that he feels most honors him. Is he the cause of the pregnancy? If so, he has a moral and financial responsibility. If he wants to get out of his unhappy marriage, he can do so. He shouldn't tie the two issues together. Approach each one separately. First the marriage...if he wants out, do it. Next the ex-gf. The way you describe her she isn't very attractive (situation-wise). That gets us back to how your brother wants to honor himself. That's his decision.
2007-05-30 03:13:57 · answer #6 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, hey....If he decides to pick his ex girlfriend, then his wife is right by saying that he's cheating! Yep.... Think about it. Vows are vows. And divorce is high. He's better off trying to work it out even if it requires counseling.
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2007-05-30 03:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably go with number 2, but, it depends on the connection. The wife needs to know how he is feeling, regardless of what he does ... but ... it sounds like he needs to take a break from all of them.
2007-05-30 03:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by Michael P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dump both and find a new life a take my kid with me!
2007-05-30 03:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋