my family absolutley hates my husband. he has had his problems yes, but i do love him and have 2 young children with him and one has severe medical problems. the only way my family will help me with the kids is if we are apart. what do i do? i've had to sacrifice being (physically) with him, he's in a totally different state working right now just so I make sure he works and i have help with the kids. is that right? it's like i have to hide the fact that we are still together and i'm sick of it....pls help. i want my husband and i want my family.
2007-05-29 19:14:16 · 20 answers · asked by angelwachinovrme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sorry but your husband and children are now your family...If your members of your family hate your husband, then you need to tell them, that's your husband and to respect that...If they don't, you need to separate yourself from them....
2007-05-29 19:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should take their opinions about your husband into consideration. Usually people who are on the outside looking in on the relationship can see alot more than those in the relationship. Maybe they see something that you can't. With that said though they also need to respect the fact that he is your choice and you are married to him. You need to tell them that while you are grateful that they are looking out for your best interest they need to respect your decisions and not use your kids as a way to make you do what they want. Some how all of you have to figure out a way to be able to get along. They dont have to like him but they do have to respect your decision and him as your husband.
2007-05-29 19:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Suz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up to your family. He is your husband and no matter how many problems you've had, it's none of your family's concern. I stood up to mine and it made all the difference in the world. I think they sometimes are so blinded by the bad things that they just can't see that you love him and being with him makes you happy. Once they hear it from your mouth (especially when he's not around) they may back off.
2007-05-29 19:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by Shawna P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a good reason why they hate him.
Just think.. they hate him because they love you, they don't want you to suffer and they want to protect you.
I know it's difficult for you. When you're in love you just can't understand what the other person is doing to you and if you do, you don't care.
As the saying goes, "loving a person is giving them the weapons to hurt you". Unfortunately, that's true.
You're in a difficult situation. You have to choose and that's not fair.
But you need to think seriously about 'his problems'. They may be a 'problem' for you and your kids in the future.
Think of this.... a person can have as many spouses as he/she wants... but they can only have ONE mother.. ONE father .. ONE family. You can't afford to lose them and you need to think about your children. They are the most important thing in your life.
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2007-05-29 19:27:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family is in the wrong here. Their "love" for you and/or your children is obviously not unconditional. Their love for you and your children is obviously based on this condition that you ditch your husband. Conditional love is not real love, and people who give ultimatums are not worth your time of day. That's not how you treat people you love. If your husband is loving, and you love your husband -- then stick with the one who doesn't try to control you, because once you let them make decisions for you, they'll never stop.
As Dr. Seuss said: "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."
2007-05-29 19:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is your life people always have problems nobody is perfect . Your family has too see that you are happy as long as he treats you and your family good that is what matters.
2007-05-29 19:18:37 · answer #6 · answered by xoxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him you tell your family to get over it. If they love you then they should be human enough to accept him. Would your family rather your kids be fatherless? How absolutely selfish of them if the answer is yes.
2007-05-29 19:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by smtilley 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grow up..........Are you a married woman or a mamma "girl"? Your husband should have married woman. Do you remember your vows to God and your huband.
Would you cheat your children out of a father because of your selfish family?
2007-05-29 19:20:42 · answer #8 · answered by Errolyn27 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Worst day of my life?
2017-04-19 01:26:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well explain to your family, that you love him and they shouldnt interfere in your lives. Whatever you decide to do is none of their business. But that you love them and you need their help and support.
2007-05-29 19:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by Crazy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋