hers the story...my cousin is engaged to this girl who here family is close to my family and his family..the girl is 2 years older than me and 5 years younger than him,when i heard he's getting married i was really happy for him , i know that the girl is really hot but i don't know anything else about her, from the moment i heard he's getting married to her i have this strong feeling that i wanted to be with her , or get a girl who's like her or maybe better,me and this girl spent last year chatting a lot in MSN messenger i also remmember her giving me kisses and saying i love you,the good thing i think i don't feel any hate betwwen me and my cousin im acutely really happy for him but can anyone define what is this feelings or why im having it.
2007-05-29 17:55:57 · 15 answers · asked by sergio 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you're happy for him, that's good. You can be just as happy, you just have to go find someone who's available... not that hard, I'm sure. G'luck.
2007-05-29 17:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by dbybell 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
the Internet and messenger are very powerful tools people use to let their feelings out they are no strings and physical contact and the screen has a hard time making you blush.
people feel so comfortable behind the key board and monitor that they will let their guard down and feelings fly. it's liberating! to say the least.
your summer chatting is another case of Internet love bug that bites people all the time. sometimes good others bad!
sounds like you had a good one! being that you know her too makes it that much better! in your case where you both seem to have made a very close connection.
as for you cuz getting married may be that you missed out this time. but because of the relationship you have between the two you at least know he's getting a good girl.
your not going crazy or anything sounds like you a true man about the whole thing and I salute you!!!!!
2007-05-29 18:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by kiphyn b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You feel this way because like all of us your a complicated human being with mixed emotions....your happy because you really care about your cousin. You know more about her then her looks....if you spent a lot time chatting with her...so you may feel a bit of a loss....so now you want her back and since that is out of the question.... feelings of jealousy and competitiveness kick in so you want the same or better.
2007-05-29 18:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can she say i love you to someone she only chatted with? thats wierd! i 'd say you need someone better! maybe your cousin does too? i mean if she was that easy chatting to you and giving kisses and saying I love you?? makes me wonder about her?? unless she was just playing around with you?? i don't know? Maybe you just want what someone else has !! or you think you do !! maybe your having second thoughts as to why you never got with her when you could have last year?? you feel you are missing out now? Maybe you did want to be with her but you never did so let it go, its just crazy thoughts i guess and its to late now , she's marrying him !! Your just thinking back about things you did or said to each other thats all ! It will pass most likey !
2007-05-29 18:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's probably not that you like your cousins fiance but that their relationship makes you realize that you don't have what they have, someone to love and share their lives with. Instead on focusing on who your cousin has, focus on what he has, which is a good relationship, and try to find someone who makes you happy.
One things for sure, stay away from your cousins fiance and whatever feelings you think you have need to be suppressed and channeled into a relationship of your own. Acting on these feelings will probably cause more trouble than the lust you are feeling is worth.
2007-05-29 18:01:38 · answer #5 · answered by JustMyOpinion 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You're probably feeling a bit envious of your cousin.
You may have not realized you were ready for love.
But now you see that we can be in love with a cute, hot woman, feel amazing and get married.
You are probably ready to start a real relationship with someone, maybe like her.
Good to stay away of course, she's your cousin's fiancee.
2007-05-29 18:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by yogi 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You just got along with her well that's all. I'm attracted to allot of woman but it means nothing there just good people and i admire them
2007-05-29 18:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by dad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its ok to have this feeling it will past give it time maybe you spent a lot of time talking to her and still feel realy close to her maybe thats why
2007-05-29 18:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by big mama 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
u r lonely and just want a connection to another person (woman). i dont think it has to do with this specific girl. just relax and go find ur own girl.
2007-05-29 17:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by braille 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i really do think (deep down) that u are jealous.
sorry man. no hard feelings but thats how it seems to me.
good luck finding someone. :)
2007-05-29 18:03:29 · answer #10 · answered by KandD 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋