my ex wants his ring and jacket back (he gave it to me when we were still together) but my recent bf wants me to throw it all away instead of giving it back..help
2007-05-29 17:50:53 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanks guys but the question again is how?my bf and i practically see each other almost everyday. how can i return these things without him knowing?
2007-05-29 17:57:53 · update #1
Its not your bf's right to decide. You decide. I'd give it back.
2007-05-29 17:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Return NO gifts. Unless the ring was an engagement ring, which was a promise of a future life together. And, throw nothing away, but have respect for your new boyfriend by not wearing these things in front of his face!
2007-05-30 08:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both are wrong.
First, what is your ex? Ex-BF or Ex-husband. An engagement or wedding ring represents a proposal. If the engagement is off, the ring, which is supposed to be paid for by the guy, should be returned. But getting married is fulfilment of proposal and contract so such rings are for you to keep if you were married. Subsequent divorce doesn't require return of such rings. You own them legitimately.
On the condition that you own the rings legitimately, your new BF or husband has no right to expect you to dispose of such items. Obviously, you shouldn't be wearing the wedding ring to piss him off. You are the property owner.
2007-05-30 04:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you shouldn't be with someone that you would feel the need to have to lie too !! You shouldn't have to lie to him ever. You shouldn't start out a relationship with lie'in ! You need to be honest and honest to him, you should not go behind his back and see your ex to give it back to him because that can lead to problems with you and your b/f/ now ! He could think there's more to it !! You need to tell him that what you want is to give him back his things, if that is what you want to do ! He needs to understand and if he wants tell him he can go with you to drop the things off !! Tell him how you feel ,if you don't feel right throwing the things away when they belong to him if you don't want them !! there is nothing wrong in giving them back to him, and letting your boyfriend know what you plan on doing! He shouldn't get mad that you were honest to him , if so he is immature and you may need to think about if you want to be with someone that is not reasonable and immature?? why would he care if you throw it away or give it back, as long as you aren't keeping it is all that should matter to him !!
2007-05-30 01:40:53 · answer #4 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here we go....
Your ex has not claim over the ring and jacket for it was a gift. So you need not return it.
Your recent b/friend may feel insecure although you are with him, but if her persist, give the ring and jacket to him and tell him to with it whatever he wants. In doing this you place the ball in his court.
Good luck
2007-05-30 01:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by INCOGNITO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little power trip from your current boyfriend, a little test to see what you'd for him. Don't fall into that.
Just give the stuff back to your ex.
-----> After reading your second comment, I can tell you your new bf is bad news.
How could you be afraid of someone you should be trusting and loving? If he's remotely interested in keeping you, and if he trusts you & your integrity, then he should mind his business. You don't need to justify the fact that you want to return the stuff to your ex.
Mail it to him so that you don't have to see him
2007-05-30 00:57:01 · answer #6 · answered by yogi 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Give back when your bf is not with you. Your bf is possesive about you so be careful when you do something against his will and it could be concerning if he knows. So return all the stuff to your ex when your bf is away for some considerable period of time.
2007-05-30 01:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by nimesh 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really think you should just give it back, wouldn't you want your ring back if it didn't work out. Your present bf must not want you to contact your past bf. That doesn't make sense to throw it away thats being spiteful and ugly. If you are willing to give it up just give it back to him and take your present bf with you to do so. He must not be comfortable with the idea of you two meeting so just take him along to reassure him.
2007-05-30 00:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by Smile 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try to convince your boyfriend to go with you when you return something that's not yours. You need to tell your boyfriend that you like to live a straight life and if you two are going to have a future together, you always have to do the right thing and that you will not feel good if you don't return it.
He needs to understand.
Good luck.
2007-05-30 01:36:06 · answer #9 · answered by Tourang B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If You left each other on good terms give it back and you'll be glad you did! throwing it away only makes you look bad and You don't sound too bad to me!!!!!
its the right thing!!!! give it back!
2007-05-30 00:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by kiphyn b 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just give it back,, it is not up to your new BF to dictate what you do with another mans possessions,,
GIVE IT TO A FRIEND TO RETURN TO HIM!! MAIL IT!!!!
Then say tothe new BF, this is not his business or concern,, it was a part of your past you want to return,,
2007-05-30 00:56:21 · answer #11 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋