Mine seems to have reverted back to adolecense.
He grunts instead of talks, plays games all day (if he gets up), stays up all night, wastes money on crap while ignoring the bills), takes no responsability for anything (am sick of hearing "it wasn't me") I even have to nag him to get a bath.
Worst thing is he's starting to make me sound like my own mother "nag nag nag nag" I hate hearing myself nag but I can't help it. We're like "nag nag nag nag"....... "grunt"....... "nag nag nag nag" ...... "grunt"
At this rate he'll be back in nappies with dummy in mouth before long lol.
Is this a phase? Rebellion against adulthood perhaps? Midlife crisis? Or has he just become a lazy old fart way before his time?
2007-05-29 17:47:12 · 24 answers · asked by erika 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Believe me, it is not just you. Plenty of men seem to revert back to their childhood when they have a woman taking care of them. It seems like they think that we are their mothers. It is like an old saying my mother told me, "The difference between men and boys is the price of their toys". This saying quite old, so it must have been going on for years.
I was devastated when my companion of 12 years and I split. Ironically, my life has been amazingly easier since that time. It lead me to believe that they are only good for one thing, if you know what I mean. lol No, honestly I do know some very responsible men, but not surprisingly they are single!!
2007-05-29 18:05:39 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hi Erika, Nope blokes don't grow up, lots of my mates who are married have reverted back too being children. particularly after they've had a couple of pints, its like being back in the playground with them. Don't get me wrong i like a laugh along with anyone else, but after a few hours, I'm bored.with it. I do believe a lot of men want their partner to be their mum, but as soon as they are out with their mates, they all say the same thing, "God she's been nagging me again" but when you listen to the way they have treated their other half, i do understand why they have been nagged. Maybe its time for woman to stop caring about their man, and make them stand on their own feet ?
2007-05-29 18:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think we all change over time. Sometimes we grow together, and sometimes we grow apart. Lots of folks fall in love, and then say that's all we need to stay happy. Relationships need to be based on more than just that. In truth, we all have wants and desires, and when we agree to be in a relationship or a marriage we agree to meet our significant other's needs. (You don't get hitched to make yourself happy, you get hitched to make someone else happy.) It has to be mutual.
It sounds like your friend has changed, and you're interests, and priorities have as well. So don't nag him when he does it, set him a side and have an adult conversation about what your goals together are, and where you should be putting your efforts in to meet those goals. If he still grunts, then its time to bag this sucker, and find someone who will be into something more than just himself. Good Luck . .
2007-05-29 18:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by Vendetta_2100 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
heck, i'm the same way and i'm a lady, so who am i to say.
we're celebrating life that's what. i gave up on the trying to get things done, and the pressure stuff. especially after having a husband like yours, who is now an ex-husband due in part to those type of things like spending all the money both of us made at work on beer and going out and doing poetry readings and thinking he'd be a poet, and picking up women at bars, and never doing the washing up, and so on.
Moved on, because why do I have to be the responsible one and work overtime on him and the kids. Forget it, I'm going to be irresponsible as well. Not as much as he was ever, and not as selfish and mean.
Just you know shrug it all off more. Water off a duck's back.
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2016-11-23 16:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he's not happy either. Perhaps his self esteem is low? He's certainly not treating you with respect. I think it's all too easy for people to just say 'ditch him' you guys have a history and breaking up is a major step! Do you love him? Do you still have good times? if prince charming came along would you be off like a shot?! p'raps you should have a little affair to put some spark back in your life and get the attention you deserve lol. good luck x
2007-05-29 20:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Erm, oh dear!!! I thought you were talking about me for a moment there, lol.
I guess he is just a normal bloke, but on a serious note, how long as he been like this? He could just be feeling a little low and as you know, guys tend to bottle feelings and it shows in their attitude.
Get him to sit with you and have a "talk" about anything. Or better still, get him to talk to you...
2007-05-29 18:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a cat prowling around here who's scaring me.
To be serious. No, most of us don't grow up unless some crisis makes us.
After two painful crises I've come some way, but fully adult? Nah.
Jon C
2007-05-29 20:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a lazy old fart before his time to me
keep on nagging and get him off his @ss he could always help around the place like hoovering or dare i say it a bit of ironing or washing up now and again it wouldnt hurt him would it
2007-05-29 18:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
every one has an inner child
the more you indulge the inner child the happier and more relaxed you feel
however there is an appropriate time inwhich to do this and your man seems to be over doing it
try leaving him to it afew hours every day but ask him to return to being a responsible adult whne you walk in
men tend to go into inner child when they are nagged or over parentised by their mates
do indulge him but dont over do it
2007-05-29 22:49:10 · answer #10 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋