What if your spouse was really ugly?

Question

and everyone else thought so too. And they had no personality, wouldn't go anywhere stayed home all the time and drink. Would you want them?

also they couldn't dance, made no friends and just did nothing, and contributed very little to make you happy.

This is my life, and it's crazy. We are the same age, people have said you can do so much better why are you with him? At first he had a business made a lot of money. It burnt down now he makes pennies.

Answer 1

Glad to see that your vision has returned!
now don't feel bad that you need to go get that loaf of bread and never come back!
just be sure you pack everything whlie their at work and be sure to fill the gas tank and check the tires.
Don't worry if they are that ugly you will not miss them and you will thank me in the morning.
now get packing your going on a little trip!!!!!!!! RUN!

Answer 2

He's probably drinking because of losing the business and is in a depression so you need to talk with him and try to work this out. Go get some counseling and learn how to try and help him and help yourself.

And don't listen to others ~ you loved him when you married him and that love is still there so you need to put the spark back in your marriage. When was the last time you told him you loved him, fixed him his favorite meal or did something special for him?

When you took your vows, you said for better or worse so unless he's committed adultery, he's yours.

Remember a marriage is 100%-100% not 50-50. Give 100% to your marriage and inspire him to do the same.

Answer 3

I hope this is a hypothetical question and not your life? I don't judge anyone on looks, but you have to at least think they are human looking. I wouldn't care what anyone else thought though, never did, never will. If they had no personality and stayed home all the time and drank, I'd never be with them in the first place. That is no life, that is just existing. Life is too short to not live it and do things and be happy. So, I'd say NO, i wouldn't want them.

Answer 4

Maybe as your spouse you should be less critical and judgemental and try to see the qualities that made you marry this person in the first place.

Focus on the good, help him/her develop their personnality by doing activities together, invite your friends over and recruit them on helping you to get him/her motivated with life again.

YOur spouse sounds like he/she may be suffering from depression. They seem to be displaying all the signs, unless he's been an alcoholic for a long time, then his health should be your main focus.

Hope you care enough to help instead of being a "Simon" judge.

Answer 5

My husband is not good looking, and that is not being mean, but when I met him he was fun to be around, and I dont care what a man looks like as long as he treats the children and I well. But he doesnt....He doesnt go anywhere with us, and drinks all the time, buts us down, and I sort of feel really sorry for him, as no-one says anything nice about him, as he doesnt show a nice side. My friends have only ever seen him be mean to myself and the kids. I am feeling like you, and it is not the "goodlooking" that is the problem, it is the way that he treats me. My husband is low in self+esteem, but I have said a million nice things to him, and shown him ways of love. He just never repays it, in any way other than paying the mortgage. That just isnt enough. Maybe talk to him and tell him how you feel, he may be mature enough to see that it is really affecting you.

Answer 6

My gut reaction is... how DARE you belittle your spouse wih your friends?! It isn't what's on the outside, it's what's inside a person that counts. I would not be surprised to find that he knows how you truly feel about him and is very hurt, hence the drinking/staying in... your spouse is supposed to SUPPORT and ENCOURAGE you, not beat you down to outsiders!

Read His needs, Her Needs... and learn to be an adult, honor the vows you made, and be a better wife instead of going around telling everyone how awful this man YOU CHOSE is!

Truly, I don't know many men who would try to make a cruel little thing like you happy. Ugh.

Marriage is forever.... my heart breaks for that poor man.

Answer 7

Depends. Its not about looks, its about personality- but if his personality is dead, well then no I wouldn't want him. If he doesnt go anywhere- does he just stay at home at do nothing? If he stayed at home and was productive things wouldnt be so bad either. You just have to remember its not about looks, or what everyone else thinks. If you arent happy, then speak up and get out. People arent going to change if you dont tell them what you are feeling, and if he isnt willing to change to keep you, then he isnt worth it. (i am not saying a complete change- just if he is sitting at home doing nothing... and stuff like that... )

Answer 8

why in the hell did you get married. first of all if my spouse was ugly, fat or what have you and i married him then there must have been something there in the first place, second why would you care what other people think, and if it does bother you then leave him and think twice before you do it again.

p.s hope you don't have kids i would hate to see what they have to go through at home

Answer 9

That is not saying much for yourself!!!! Well if you make him think of himself like that maybe you have broken the man & he is ashamed of being seen. What did you marry him for anyway? Being the best looking has nothing to do with loving someone you must really be vane.............I bet he's not that bad at all. You are probably just looking for an excuse to leave him..............

Answer 10

If they were everything you say they were I doubt I would of married them In the first place. But, hypothetically speaking, If they were my spouse. I would love them and looks would not be a problem. Obviously I would of married them because I loved them,