Statistics says that young marriages don't last?

Question

What does that give us? No hope basically! Yes, it says some work out, but it's likely they are trying to make us fear marriage and divorce. Everywhere I look there are people breaking up. I'm in a great marriage, but my Mom keeps on telling me that I won't love him in 5 years over and over again. My husband supports me mentally and he gives me great self esteem, something I never had before I met him. I think it's so wrong that people think that young marriage's don't last. I'm in it for the long run baby.

Answer 1

Yea and satan can quote scriptures from the bible to prove his cause too. Who cares what a bunch of numbers on a paper say. What matters is how well you are prepared to make YOUR marriage succeed. Do you two do the things ANY marriage needs to succeed. Do you support and nurture each other? Do you communicate with each other, and trust each other? Are both of you committed to this marriage for ever? If so than "F" the rest of the naysayers. Their miserable lives cause them to want the rest of us to be as miserable as they are, and that's stupid.
If everywhere you look people are breaking up stop looking! Look at your marriage only, and live a wonderful life with your wonderful husband.
I was 18, and my wife was 17 when we go married. We had to go to mandated counseling, her parents had to sign off on the wedding, and we had to go in front of a judge to prove our selves worthy. My wife had to go in front of the judge by her self, and be interviewed by him to make sure we were truly getting married because we love one another, and no one was coercing her. That 1st year my father died, and 6 months later our firstborn died. We had a major load of "S..." thrown at us before we celebrated our 1st wedding anniversary.
Our 30th wedding anniversary is next monday the 4th. We had 4 more kids, and are the grandparents of 3.
Age, or lack thereof doesn't necessarily mean a marriage will fail. What matters is how well you are prepared for this marriage, and how willing both of you are to do what is necessary 24/7/365 to make your marriage work. Don't fear marriage, respect it. Dont fear divorce, laugh at it because you two have done the things necessary to prevent it from ever happening. Write us in 5 years and tell us how wonderful your lives have become.

Answer 2

good for you ! any Marriage can be over at any time! it has nothing to do with the age you got married, is what i think !! it about the two people and how they make it or not!! if you make it through the ups and downs together then you will last! Don't listen to those people who tell you things that they don't really know about !! They can't perdict your marriage! no one can, only the future will tell what happens to anyone! You stay happy and enjoy your marriage all you can and don't worry about those people who have most likely never have had a good marriage anyway, so they think nobody elses will work either !!!!! You are the right one when it comes to your marriage and your spouse, no one else is!! Happy times to ya !!!!

Answer 3

I don't know how young you are but I was 16 and my husband was 19 when we got married. We will celebrate our 44th anniversary in September. Our love has grown through the years. It's a different love than those early teen years but it's still a love that has grown in many ways.
The best advice I can give is to communicate. Everyone of us has problems than can be solved if we can talk about them. Never go to bed angry with each other and don't give the silent treatment. In all of our almost 44 years together, we have never done that or gone to bed angry. Give each other space and help each other with the household chores and the children. It seems so many couples today give up on each other without working out their problems.
My only fear in life as we get older is that my life long partner will be taken away from me by some illness. I can't imagine a life without him. He's my love, my soul mate and I want to keep him forever.
Don't pay attention to your mother. She should be there to support you and not to send you bad vibes. Good luck to you and I hope you will someday celebrate your Golden anniversary with this husband of yours.

Answer 4

The problem I find that causes most marriages to fail is lack of communication second is when they allow outside sources to interfere or influence your thoughts about where your marriage is and how it should be!!!! well I say BS!
people should mind their own affairs and leave other people alone. if they spent half the time trying to make their marriage work as they did watching soaps and being a match maker know it all! then most marriages would work. when we allow others in our affairs is where the problems start.
That all you need is a well thought out idea from some idiot who can't cook water.
I got married at 17 and still married after 26 so that stats dude can kiss my aspergum tree!

Answer 5

The answer is that no one can ever be sure a marriage will survive. You do the best you can, work at it, and hope for the best. Most young people change tremendously through their thirties. For many it is impossible to keep a promise they made when they were young immature kids and had no idea what they wanted from life. A lot of their decisions were just based on whim and hormones.

Answer 6

I got married at 18 an I couldn't be happier. We've been madly in love for 6 years and can't imagine being with anyone else. I would say that you need to tell your Mom that she either needs to back off so you can live your life as you wish or you need to distance yourself from her. Just because she might not like him is no reason to try to sway your judgement of him. If you love him then there is no reason to doubt your decision to marry young.

Answer 7

I hope it works divorce was never in my vocabulary 12 years later here we are I worked my a** off on this relationship....
and now its time to move on. Good luck with yours your mom should be more supportive. Don't ever forget to communicate and always go to counseling before you need it....

Answer 8

Preach it sister!

We are 24, been married 4 years, and still happy:)

Answer 9

more than 50% of marriages end in divorce no matter the age.